I turned 40 and am knee-deep in a mid-life crisis

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  1. Dainty Jainty

    Dainty Jainty New Member

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    I figured the "mid-life crisis" phenomenon only happened to a few people until it hit me hard like a punch to the neck.

    I turned 40 in August. I work in a field (finance) totally unrelated to my talents and higher education (artistic talent, BA and MA in forensic psychology).

    I just got back from a glorious vacation in Australia (my fourth visit to that beautiful country) and do NOT want to return to work on Wednesday. I've lived in NYC for 22 years and can't stand it anymore. Hate the assholes, hate the noise, hate the grit.

    I feel the need to make serious changes in my life. I want to quit my job, sublet my apartment, move to the country, live off my savings and sublet fees, and start fresh with a quiet part-time job somewhere in my new environs and use my free time to explore nature and work on my art work.

    My boyfriend says I can definitely do all that! I have the savings to get me by for a few years if I get no work (coupled with the sublet fees, I'd be pretty nicely set). But I'm too chicken shit to make such a big change. I make decent money and am too scared to leave it behind (I grew up poor so the idea of going back to living on meager wages scares me).

    I feel so stressed and confused and tired of this all, I want to cry. :(
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    Bjs are important when we get old too
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    Cry harder faggot!!!
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    Dainty Jainty New Member

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    lol! I was waiting for that! I'm a woman, btw. :)
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    Lemmy Douchebag Extraordinaire VIP

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    Gotta be happy. Making $$$$ isn't everything and country living is wonderful.
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    what is your current career?
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    Just buy a harley like I did...you'll get over it!
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    Better to do this when you have money and life experience as you do than when you're a 20 year old broke moron.
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    Of course what you are suggesting sound fan-fucking-fabulo-tastic and I'd do it in a minute if I could....so yes, I'm jealous
  11. keywordpk

    keywordpk Perpetual Geek Gold

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    How far from the city are you thinking? Another state? What kind of interests do you have that might lead you into another career direction?



    It sounds like a great opportunity to see what's out there and really figure out what your passion is. It would be an adventure, for sure.
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    How bout some dick? :c
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    Smoke da krack, fresh dick, get high in the hough house!
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    gwartney Naturally Autodidactic Gold

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    You only go around once in life. If you aren't happy with it and you don't make the change, you may look back in ten years and think that you wasted those ten years. Sounds like you aren't just jumping into it without planning so you're all the better for that. I'm currently changing careers and I only wish I'd (financially) planned it out as well as you appear to have.
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    do it faggit.
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    Sounds like you actually thought about this and have a pretty decent plan id say go for it. If it doesn't work out move back to the city find another job and live miserably like every one else
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    we left Jersey 20 yrs ago.quit good jobs to start over here in AZ with 2 boys and no jobs,it helped we paid cash for a house.the boys have done well and so have we.

    you are single and no kids ?

    do it.
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    get a motorcycle

    do lots of coke

    and fuck a lot of whoars

    :whistle:

    oh wait

    you're a chick

    fuck a lot of whoars :yes:
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    Translation: I need to get away from all these colored folks.
  20. Mack

    Mack stirrer of shit VIP

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    How do you feel about North Idaho/Eastern Washington? My wife has openings for a Loan Officer (Personal Banker) and a Operations Manager. :dontknow:
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    Mack stirrer of shit VIP

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    Then Idaho would be perfect...

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