@45:35 After Kacey talking about going out and having sex, fun ,etc Howard replies....
"Boy, I live a very straight lifestyle, I just got my wife and we hang out and watch the Bachelor"
A verrry gay lifestyle I'd say! Yeah sure Beth is really thrilled and really into that.
@4:35 after discussing The Bachelor(hmmm gay) and that the "good looking" guys are not guys she'd want, he says reading poetry to a girl is dumb and these young girls are looking for a guy to have kids with. Hmm good job telling Beth that.
Does he ever think Beth is NO WAY into him and wants to be with these young guys, out having sex, living life and have kids? Does he ever think, "damn, it has to be all my MONEY. She has to be bullshitting me. Her whole youth and child bearing years thrown away on me? She'd have thrown away all that for me if I was a regular guy? What's she doing out in the Hamptons alone?"