The Guy even looks like Benjy - Cabin-dwelling recluse ‘Planned Parenthood gunman' was once a happily married father and art dealer – but became a pot-smoking oddball who sought sadomasochistic sex online after divorce Robert Dear, 57, allegedly burst into the clinic in Colorado Springs on Friday and opened fire, killing three people Dear's ex-wife, Pamela Ross, was once a happily married family man who lived with his wife and son in South Carolina. She said that Dear believed abortion was wrong, but 'it was never really a topic of discussion' Locals told Daily Mail Online that Dear moved to a remote cabin in Colorado a year ago and kept himself to himself Ross said 'something must have happened to him when he moved away' and describe a man who once kept in shape and listed to U2 The suspect accused of killing three people in an attack on a Planned Parenthood in Colorado was once a happy father and art dealer who painted and listened to rock music, a report has revealed. Robert Dear, 57, who allegedly burst into the clinic in Colorado Springs on Friday and opened fire, was a recluse who moved to a remote cabin in the state a year ago, his neighbors have told Daily Mail Online. But a new report by the New York Times has revealed that Dear was once a happily married family man who lived with his wife and son in South Carolina. Since his 2000 divorce, Dear seems to have declined into a loner who lives in a remote cabin, seeking bondage and sadomasochistic sex online and smoking marijuana. A neighbor said that Dear did not openly discuss religion or abortion with him, but a cross made of twigs was seen outside the suspect's old house in North Carolina on Saturday Dear's former wife of 16 years, 54-year-old Pamela Ross, said he did get angry sometimes and did not engage in small talk. The couple had one son together before divorcing in 2000 and Dear took custody of the boy who is now 25. Dear raised his son in North Carolina, where he taught him to hunt. Before their divorce, Dear was an independent art dealer and earned a degree in public administration from a Midwestern college, Ross told the Times.