Anybody else say this to their significant other?

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  1. Slippy

    Slippy Well-Known Member VIP Gold

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    "Just turn around and walk. Right now. Walk away. Shut your mouth. For both of our safety, and any chance for this relationship."

    "Just turn around, and walk away".

    Anybody? I rather think it's just a polite thing to say sometimes. Especially if you love the person, and don't really want to lose or kill them.
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    I've never said it.

    But we rarely argue. We're both chill.
     
  3. Chigs

    Chigs The finest in the Nation VIP

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    Never said it. That being said, my last relationship probably wasn't the healthiest.
     
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    Jodi said it to Travis. It didn't take :sad:
     
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    Doesn't sound like anything someone in a healthy relationship would say. Reminds me of one of the last fights with my ex-wife
     
  6. Slippy

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    Well, I gotta ask then: "chill" or not, we're all humans. You have GOT to get frustrated as hell with him sometimes. And I bet sometimes the guy keeps yapping.

    What do YOU say?

    I'm wide open on any other way to deal with shit. I just find that "walking away" and "cooling down" is usually most helpful. :dontknow:
     
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    If you have to say that to someone, it's not a good relationship at all
     
  8. Slippy

    Slippy Well-Known Member VIP Gold

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    I rather think saying exactly what you think is the healthiest thing in the world to do.
     
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    When I'm annoyed with him, I avoid him. :jj:
     
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    i let my backhand do the talking. :coffee:
     
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    LOL, I don't say it...I do it
     
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    Slippy Well-Known Member VIP Gold

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    Slow down. What if I have to say that because I am not handling something well? And he's just trying to help, but doing it in a way that frustrates me more?

    I'm not trying to be a bad person. Neither is he.

    Walking away for a few minutes does not indicate a bad relationship. I think it's healthy. As well as TELLING the person they should just walk for a moment, so I can regain my composure.
     
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    Slippy Well-Known Member VIP Gold

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    I think you 2 just said the same thing, from a different angle. :lo5:
     
  14. Lawsy

    Lawsy Hey, buttholes

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    To your SO
    to your mom
    to your friends

    hell yes :)
     
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    tl;dr
     
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    I agree that walking away is very healthy. If there's a possibility of things getting physical if you dont, then that is a personal issue that should be addressed.
     
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    I agree with the walking away, but to order them off like that is more confrontational, because they can argue back at that point. Instead, you take the initiative and walk away yourself.
     
  18. Slippy

    Slippy Well-Known Member VIP Gold

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    Awwwwwwww hell. Getting physical is something very, very different.

    I only dealt with that once in life.

    It was rough.

    I was addressing "normal" life shit. This attitude/behavior is normal. "Walk away, stop talking".

    Truthfully, I can likely hurt somebody way more with my words, than my ex-husband ever did with his fists. And you have to realize that, and make sure you don't do it.

    Hence: "walk away" - before I say something so hurtful, you won't be able to forgive me
     
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    I just got a boner thinking aboot you yelling that at me
     
  20. Lawsy

    Lawsy Hey, buttholes

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    Go to your room, Mom!