Can men and women really be "just friends"? (asking for a friend) (pole)

Discussion in 'The Bar' started by Satori Brah, Sep 3, 2014.

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Do YOU have friends of the opposite sex? (no homo)

Poll closed Sep 10, 2014.
  1. Yes

    66.7%
  2. No

    33.3%
  1. Satori Brah

    Satori Brah Well-Known Member

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    Point:

    Men and women can be 'just friends,' but there are some criteria, according to relationship expert David Coleman, also known as The Dating Doctor, and author of Date Smart!: How to Stop Revolving and Start Evolving in Your Relationships.

    "If you're physically attracted, romantically interested, or if they can make you jealous by what they say or do with other people, you can't be just friends,' says Coleman.

    In fact, he believes that there are six strict criteria for someone -- anyone -- to be considered a "true friend." A true friend is rare; the time spent together is effortless; neither party keeps score about anything serious; there is no gossip; no jealousy; and there's always a judgment-free zone between the two of you.

    "If your 'friend' expresses interest in another friend of yours, you wouldn't hesitate to introduce them," explains Coleman. "But if you feel saddened or threatened by their interest in your other friend, then you're simply NOT 'just friends' with this person -- there are feelings there!"


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    Counterpoint:

    Men Want To Bang Women
    No matter how you slice it, every non-family member female in your life that your friends aren’t dating is on your sexual radar in some scope (hell, for a number of you sick and shameless individuals, the former conditions may not even factor). If you are “friends” with a female, then one of these conditions is undoubtedly true:

    • You want to fuck her.
    • You already have fucked her.
    • She is below a 5
    There is not a single woman in my social circle that isn’t ugly that I would not bang if given the opportunity. Men do not casually make friends with attractive women—they are either forced upon them (family, friend’s girlfriend, etc.), or there is a physical intent. When you see a female your brain immediately and involuntarily gauges her fuckability, and as the theory suggests, puts her on the “ladder.”
     
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  2. DarkFriday

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    Men are [​IMG]
     
  3. Satori Brah

    Satori Brah Well-Known Member

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    I'll open this up by saying that I currently have RL female friends, and I always have. I enjoy their company even if I'm not fucking them.
     
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  4. FatKidSullivan

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    The only female friends I didn't want to fuck were fat.

    And I still kinda wanted to fuck them too.
     
  5. Bro

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    Emphatically no.

    My son can. I don't know how he does it.
     
  6. DarkFriday

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  7. ice cream

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    sure..as long as you dont want to fuk them

    but then whats the sense of hanging out :dontknow:
     
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    Maybe he wants to fuck them. :dontknow:
     
  9. Satori Brah

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    What's the sense of hanging out with anyone?
     
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  10. Gitfiddle

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    They can be friends but the guy will always fuck her if given the opportunity.
     
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  11. Satori Brah

    Satori Brah Well-Known Member

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    I'm already fucking someone. Got that covered.
     
  12. Danas Boyfrien

    Danas Boyfrien Trump's African American Gold

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    I have very few female friends. I can only be friends with a chick I am completely uninterested in her.
     
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    you wanna just hang out with a woman? ya gonna try on clothes? have fucking dinner? listen to her share about her insipid life? uh, no.
    she wants to hang out with you because she feels safe. you wanna hang out so you can fuck her right in the pussy.
     
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    Yeah but at that point who wants to be friends with a chick?
     
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    This. I'm starting to feel this way more and more.
     
  16. Danas Boyfrien

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    Exactly. It really is pointless. The few female friends I have are grandfathered in I guess.
     
  17. TonyJax

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    I am friends with women that are married or girlfriends to my friends.

    I would not try to fuck them, not say I would not like too, just wont.
     
  18. DrivenByDemons

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    What's wrong with fucking a friend?
     
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  19. Satori Brah

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    I'm guessing a lot of guys here don't view their GF or spouse as their best friend, like I do :D
     
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    Absolutely. I have quite a few friend only females in my life.
     
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