Child Custody Battle..

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  1. SneakAtoke

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    Long video.Watch when you have time to kill.Drama starts at the 3:27 mark.
    [video=youtube;rYFY3POHk2k]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rYFY3POHk2k[/video]
     
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    I don't necessarily agree with the way the father handled this, but a couple of things:
    1) The boyfriend seriously needs to keep his mouth the fuck shut
    2) The mother has serious anger issues and conveniently, after maintaining a semblance of composure, turns on the water works exactly when the cop FINALLY arrives (FIFTY FUCKING MINUTES after the initial call).
    3) Around the 54-minute mark, the kid loses his shit.
    4) 58-minute-mark, the mother tries to force him out of the car
    5) 1:03:00 mark: The mother lies to the son (or is seriously misinformed) that her boyfriend is considered "a parent."
     
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    How should the father have handled it? :bigthink
     
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    Well, both the mother and father discussed things in front of the son that they shouldn't. The mother was the worst, shit-talking the kid's father in his presence. Judges take a very dim view of parents who pit themselves against the other parent in the kid's presence.

    I also see the mother as really kind of unstable. You know she's the type that beats the shit out of their kids in private and is all sweetness and honey in public.

    Also, as the father, he should've made sure the video NEVER made it to youtube. It should've been for the court and the counselors.
     
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    This is how I see it.

    The father is a complete asshole. You can see he's one of those idiots who would videotape himself arguing with cops because he "knows his rights". He's pushing that shit on his kid..to "stand his ground and stand up for his rights".

    The Father obviously doesn't get a long with the Mother, so what better way to get under her skin than using the kid.

    The Mother spends the majority of the time actually raising the kid, you know, the hard part. And when the kid goes with the Father, it's all fun and games. The grass is greener to the kid.

    The kid is a spoiled pussy. Or at least seems like a pussy. His age grants him the benefit of the doubt and it's possible he'll wise up in a few years.

    The Mother doesn't seem all that bad.
     
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    This all might be true, but the courts do include the child's needs/wants/desires when determining custody and/or altering a custody arrangement and if the father was denied status as primary custodial parent, then there's some things he has to do to convince them, otherwise that kid is either gonna be sent back to his mother or to foster care.

    The mother made allegations of substance abuse against the father so if he's serious about wanting his son to live with him, obviously, he knows what he needs to do and who he needs to convince.
     
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    But again, the mother's boyfriend? Seriously needs to shut the fuck up and stay out of it.
     
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    I ran across the video a couple months ago. Apparently, a judge ruled the boy had to live with his mother, and they moved out of the town where this was filmed at.

    The mother appears to be pretty nasty (although, we don't know the whole situation of the story). However, it wouldn't shock me if the father was some guy who hardly ever/never payed child support, came in and out of the children's lives, but is now back around and does all the fun stuff with the kids, while neglecting financial duties. So, he gets to seem like the great, fun parent, while the mother and stepfather are actually raising the kids.
     
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    The boyfriend is wearing a T-Shirt for Permian High School Football (from Friday Night Lights). Any grown man who still wears a t-shirt for his high school team has no business raising any child, let alone someone else's. Even as a young teen, the kid probably recognized that his 'stepdad' was a meathead and wanted no part of that household. Unfortunately, the baby has no chance and probably already has a nursery painted Longhorn Orange with a Cowboys mobile above his bed.
     
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    Wasn't the boyfriend actually her husband? ANd didn't she say that he's also legally a parent as well? He only spoke up a couple of times. Plus he, along with the Mother, is also raising the kid. And the kid is under his roof too, not just the Mother's roof.
     
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    That was my thought as well. I would bet the step dad has been more of a PARENT to this child, then the father has ever been. Hard for a young boy to understand that.
     
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    He's backing his wife's side in the confrontation. Had he just stood there silently, everyone would have called him a pussy. Not every stepparent is like Doyle Hargraves, you know...there are actually some very decent ones out there.
     
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    I kinda skipped through that thing...anyone have some Cliff Notes?
     
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    I thought he composed himself very well, considering the situation.
     
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    A lot better than most of us would have.
     
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    The mother's boyfriend/husband is not a parent unless he legally adopts the boy, regardless as to what she says to her son.
     
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    Exactly right. The father is trying to be "cool dad" every other weekend, spoiling the child and alienating the mother. And a 14 year old doesn't have the right to refuse visitation. He has, in most states, the right to request visitation be changed, but not to change it himself on a whim.

    A good friend of mine is going through this right now. The mother has successfully poisoned the daughter and she's refusing visitation. She's 15 and still expects him to buy her a car on her 16th birthday - talk about a bitch not understanding the situation!

    EDIT: The cops need a reprimand. And the mother had just bought him a car? At 14? Sell that fast and spend the money on yourself.
     
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    Then what is he? Just some guy that lives there? He's an adult, and it's his house too. Rules are rules, no matter if the relation is blood or not.