Married 9 years. 2 wonderful, younger children. We have serious marital flaws. Within past 2 years we have discussed divorced and decided too painful. Within past 8 months she texts me divorce bombshells at work about 3 times. They ruin me until things settle down again. Got another divorce text today. I'm distraught again. But now, at 40, feel that I can't keep up with this roller coaster. I'm going to tell her ahead of time then go see a lawyer. I'm having trouble seeing the bright side. Mind racing without formulating a real question. I'm fishing for any thoughts or gems or bright sides or stories how darkest days ahead will be better.