WTF Divorce... Looking for the light.

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  1. beechnut400

    beechnut400 Member

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    Married 9 years. 2 wonderful, younger children. We have serious marital flaws. Within past 2 years we have discussed divorced and decided too painful. Within past 8 months she texts me divorce bombshells at work about 3 times. They ruin me until things settle down again.

    Got another divorce text today. I'm distraught again. But now, at 40, feel that I can't keep up with this roller coaster. I'm going to tell her ahead of time then go see a lawyer.

    I'm having trouble seeing the bright side.

    Mind racing without formulating a real question.

    I'm fishing for any thoughts or gems or bright sides or stories how darkest days ahead will be better.
     
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    chapped Well-Known Member

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    wife pictures?
     
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    baltimore mike Well-Known Member

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    chapped Well-Known Member

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    no seriously ... there are what billions of women ...

    is there a pre-nup?
    does she make more money?

    most states you get fucked for life if you have been married for more than 10 years
     
  5. JFK

    JFK Ask not what your country can do for you.

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    You've come to the right place.

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  6. Calloused Shins

    Calloused Shins Well-Known Member

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    I'm sorry sal... I'll tell christine to stop coming over. It's nothin serious dude
     
  7. OV

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    Within 6 mos of getting divorced (about 3 years after I should have), I was completely off prozac, zoloft and all that other crap... including St Johns Wort. Just saying :dontknow:
     
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    Go to the lawyer first before you do anything. She's not happy, you're not happy, it's time to move on.
     
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    Try your best to keep it civil, it will make all the difference. It's an awful, stressful experience but it does get better.Good luck to you.
     
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    oh yeah..marital advice on this board...This should go very smooth
     
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    I don't know the law where you live but in Montana we have a "cooling off" period. The couple have to be living apart for 6 months before they can be divorced. That time apart helped me realize that divorce was the right choice, both times!

    I know everyone will tell you this, but it's true. It does get better.
     
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    Javaforgotme Well-Known Member Banned User

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    Listen brother - protect yourself. Hide as much money as you can. Then go to councelling - you've got kids - you have to learn how to work together - even if you divorce.

    Don't be reluctant to dump your feelings here. There are some good folks here - they helped me get through some shit.

    Even just to hear others have been where you are and gotten through it. It helps.

    There is a light at the end of the tunnel.
     
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    TAKE A BREATH, slow down, you'll be fine. You don't see how right now, but you will. Trust me. Don't get caught not being prepared. Talk to a lawyer yourself, you MUST protect yourself and your kids. A separation may be all you need to fix things. If it's over, it's over. There is a bright side, trust me. I didn't think I'd EVER be happy again and I am at the happiest I've ever been.
     
  14. Beth143nacho

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    Do yourself a favor. Agree to mediation and avoid the lawyers. Once there's his & hers lawyers involved, they want nothing more than to have you and the wife to argue. Your relationship getting ruined means more cash for them, and all because they promise you stuff you already have (they are splitting up your assets after all).

    Sounds like you two still respect each other and would likely be friends if you decided to break it off. If that's the case, make the deal to yourselves that if you cannot make the marraige work, that you'll make the break up work. There will be things you can't agree to, but those will be fairly few. Use a single lawyer to decide on those things only.

    Sorry to hear about your dilemma. Wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy. Hope things work out. And remember, sometimes the worst things in life wind up being the best things that ever happened to you.
     
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    Went through all of this 8 years ago.

    My only advice....keep it civil in front of the kids. You can say whatever you want to say when they're not around, but don't say it around them, and don't bad mouth her in front of them either.
     
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    JFK Ask not what your country can do for you.

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    got any left overs?
     
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    Once the lawyers get involved, you're fucked. You'll wind up hating your ex wife, she'll take the kids and leave you with nothing but alimony bills. She'll be pissed because you both got a quarter of what you used to have and the lawyers walked away with the other half.

    Do whatever you can by yourselves. ALL the divorced friends of mine that did it themselves have a MUCH better life now than those that went the lawyer route.
     
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    it happens