Does Marriage counseling really work??

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  1. Phan Neepack

    Phan Neepack Well-Known Member

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    Virtually every couple I've known that freely admitted to seeing a Couples/Marriage counselor, went on to get divorced............ I have yet to meet anyone who said they sought counseling years ago, and it rekindled their marriage ...


    Seems like when most people are done with something, they're done with it ... No amount of therapy can reel the old feelings back in :(




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  2. Satori Brah

    Satori Brah Well-Known Member

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    don't know/don't care
     
  3. Apple the cat

    Apple the cat Moral conscience of the Shed

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    Marriage counseling can work, but only if both parties are committed to making the marriage work and no major lines (like affairs) have been crossed.
     
  4. Vyb

    Vyb serial chiller Gold

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    Yeah I think if some 3rd party has to tell you how to communicate with your spouse, you're fucked.
     
  5. Gitfiddle

    Gitfiddle Live Deliciously

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    Can it work if cuckolding has taken place?
     
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    Gitfiddle Live Deliciously

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    I'm asking for a fat friend.
     
  7. stripes

    stripes Active Member Banned User

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    marraige doesnt work dumbass
     
  8. Johnnykstaint

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    Yep...most couples dont see a counselor until its too late. And even so, i dont think the therapist will really help in any circumstances - maybe if you go before you got married/involved and thought a little about how our brains worked it would generally help overall...but as far as going to "fix a problem"? Probably not.
     
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    stripes Active Member Banned User

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    should probably talk to a priest about it also.:c
     
  10. Apple the cat

    Apple the cat Moral conscience of the Shed

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    After a number of years, a marriage is more of a business relationship than a love relationship. That is, you want to stay together to keep your financial life growing and not lose half your shit. You can still love your spouse, but it is in a different way than when you were newlyweds.
     
  11. Stevie

    Stevie Now go...Ohm.

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    Yes.
     
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    Johnnykstaint VIP Extreme Gold

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    I would wager that most couples in a cuckolding situation never see a therapist and stay married.
     
  13. Popeye Saavedra

    Popeye Saavedra Well-Known Member

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    Ask Lemmy. :coffee:
     
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    Didn't work for Howard, that's for sure ..... :secret:
     
  15. Phan Neepack

    Phan Neepack Well-Known Member

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    That word has officially been overused
     
  16. Phan Neepack

    Phan Neepack Well-Known Member

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    Is he getting divorced ?
     
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    Popeye Saavedra Well-Known Member

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    I'm sure you hear it from your wife all the time.
     
  18. Phan Neepack

    Phan Neepack Well-Known Member

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    I've always been fascinated with couples that do that ... Go talk to a guy whose never been married or had sex (supposedly, anyway) about your problems with marriage and/or your sexual relationship ...... That's like going to your auto mechanic about your nagging cough
     
  19. Ben Dover

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    I think it's better to try marriage counseling than nothing at all. I don't know if it would have saved my marriage, since my ex-wife was a self-absorbed whore, but I suppose it could work for other marriages
     
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    The therapist usually sides with someone then the other person is f'd.