Where's Colin Powell when you need him, she's turning into a wordy fuck: April 6, 2012 | 6:03 am Let Yourself Go Posted by Emily Stern Follow JewishJournal.com on [TABLE] [TR] [TD][/TD] [TD]Share [/TD] [TD][/TD] [/TR] [/TABLE] Let Yourself Go Some Passover Notes and Suggestions for Inner Child Play time Passover Seder (Order) is the perfect playground! First we come to the glass of wine and stare into the cup. any feeling that arises let that be given to you from the cup. This is used in clowning classes for creating a Clown. The way that one feels about the nose is the way your clown feels about the whole world. The nose is the whole world, and then the emotional reaction that arises to the nose in that moment is the clownâ€™s demeanor. Let the image of the wine impact you, and allow it to become the whole world. It is all that exists. Take your time and drink the glass. Remember this is based on a clowning exercise so feel free to let yourself be this type of clown, let it grow from this emotion. and feel. interact. be. The bowl of water at the center of the room is the antidote to this. and immediately upon washing (without a blessing) feel the emotion change into the exact opposite emotion. So, if you were feeling grumpy, you may want to explore gawking and take the world in as a remarkably charming place. Now make your way in our interactive seder plate. All blankets and scarves and pillows as fort-like as you can be, can be strewn. Recline! Spread mattresses or pillows. Why should there be a table? Why not be in the midst of it all? Why not be the table? or at least inside it? Designate each part of the room to represent a section of the seder plate. As you go back into the first clown feeling gathering all your emotions, most likely much more deeply now having gone the opposite direction. Be aware of your thoughts. As we wash our hands, move your hands very deliberately. move your wrists around. move them in different positions, move your fingers. feel each finger move. play with your hands and how they relate to your inner world. when you change the outside, what are your feelings? â€œThe wrists can lift or circle. They can move left or right, in staccato or in gentle movements. They can pull away from each other with tension or with ease. They can move up and down in a constant rhythm. They can push away from the body or slide in toward it. THe hands and fingers can claw, punch, twist, or caress. They can close as if to grab suddenly, or grasp finger by finger. They can undulate: wrist, palm, first knuckle, second, third. They can push, pull, lift, tickle, or poke.â€ (Stephen Wangh, The Acrobat of The Heart) Also consider doing this with the eyes. â€œThe eyelids can open and close. They can open partway. One eye can open. One eye can wink, Both eyes can blink. The eyelids can flutter. They can be heavy and keep trying to close. They can snap open.â€ When we dip the greens in salt water, remember Lotâ€™s wife who turned around because she couldnâ€™t fully walk forward and let go of Sodom, thereby turning into a pillar of salt. So, let us move forward. So let go of the need to hold back, to preserve oneself, into freedom from needing things to be stagnant. If there are masks available, wear them, or else continue to move the body in sections, and note the feelings or stories that arise. As we begin to approach the breaking of the middle matzah, we also begin to be introduced to the first of the four overarching children charactersâ€”the wise child. Continue to read the hagaddah. The Wise Child wants to know the laws? We learn from him that we do not taste anything after the afikomen. The wise Child knows so much. and the reminder/ healing for these children is to know that the afikomen is the sweetest part of the prayer, going inside. Please allow a few moments of connection with another person at the seder. Make sure you see the afikomen in them. Make sure you see their sweetness. Look, really look for the thing that they would not need anything forevermore because you have this. If you would like to, ask them a question. I recommend this exercise. Recently, A friend lay in my lap, and a third friend and I looked down at her. She immediately said it was quite healing for her to imagine us as her parents. The widening of their perspectives in the safety of being a child can be quite beautiful. OR and Be on your back. hold your feet. FIND SAFE PLACE, where you are comfortable in the space. Whether you choose to be alone or to lay in the lap of another looking up at them as if they were a protective, loving parent or parents. Here we can begin to pay thanks to the Midwives of Egypt who saved the lives of many children that were ordered to be killed. Any part that feels dead remind yourself that we have whoever is looking at you, or Puah and Shifra to thank for the support of children. Place them in the room with your imagination. Place them in the floor boards, on the ceiling. Lay in a friendâ€™s lap looking up and see them as loving parents, as midwives. Connect to the promise of safety in the part of the hagaddah that begins â€œMeetchelahâ€ â€œAt first . . .â€ cover the matzah, and raise your glass. The promise- of safety or a safe future is this blessing The Evil child needs to know their safety. â€œwhat is this service to you?â€ they ask. â€œto you, but not to me.â€ There is no question that this fragmentation of the whole is a symptom of the need to protect oneself, to split off as a means of survival. The child must hear. Yes, YOU are the only one.â€ in a process of learning to trust and care for the child self, the child must feel seen. The third child, The simple one, the teaching includes reminding him of the strong hand of Gd. This is also about trusting the will of Gd. As if to say, â€œdonâ€™t worry, He cares.â€ It is time for two physical exercises that will help us understand and enjoy them. Please again notice what comes up for you within them because we are also embracing the story of Egypt. These are physical ideas for releasing tension and opening to trust and faith. It is quoted directly from Alexander Lowenâ€™s book, â€œDepression and The Bodyâ€ â€œTake a position with the feet parallel and about six inches apart and bend the knees so that the weight of the body is balanced between the heels and the balls of the feet. The rest of the body should be straight with the arms hanging loosely at the sides. The best results will be obtained if one stands barefoot or without shoes. if possible, hold this position for about two minutes. The mouth should be slightly open so that the breathing can develop easily and fully. Let the belly out but donâ€™t force it. Holding the belly in restricts breathing and is unnecessary work. You donâ€™t have to hold yourself up by your guts if you will allow your legs and back to serve this function, as they were intended to do. The breathing movements should extend into the belly. The back should be straight but not rigid, the buttocks and pelvis should be allowed to hang loose and free. The purpose of this exercise is to bring you into touch with your legs and feet, and this will happen as sensation develops in them. Put your attention into your feet and try to maintain your balance between the heels and the balls of the feet. As you do this, you may find some involuntary tremors occurring in the legs or body, your legs may begin to vibrate or to shake. These involuntary movements are an expression of the flow of feeling in your body. Allow them to develop to the extent that you are comfortable with them. Sense your body and see if you can feel its aliveness. When the position becomes painful or you think your legs will collapse, change . . . (exercises) â€œ..stand on one leg and bend the knee as far as it will go without raising any part of the foot off the ground. The other leg is extended backward off the ground. The arms are extended and the hands rest lightly on two chairs placed alongside the person. The chairs are used for balance, not for support. On the floor six inches from the patientâ€™s foot is a folded blanket. The patient is asked to hold this position as long as he can, breathing easily and deeply, and to feel the weight of his body on his foot. When he can no longer maintain it, he is directed to let himself fall on his knee into the blanket. There is no danger of injury through this exercise, yet most people are afraid to let themselves fall. Some will struggle to maintain the position indefinitely, while others will fall prematurely as an act of will rather than surrender. Many lower themselves to the floor gradually. This exercise is repeated twice on each leg. On the fourth time I ask the patient to say, â€˜I give up,â€™ as he falls.â€ As for the one who does not know how to ask, we must ask why? In â€œThe Highly Sensitive Personâ€ by Elaine Aron, she explains such an interesting phenomenon. I do not have the book here to quote, but she identifies shyness as an external context put upon as a label to describe someone who is so highly engaged with life that it can be overwhelming. That, in fact, the highly sensitive person can bear the label shy because others are not feeling connected to their profound inner experience. The One who does not know how to ask a questionâ€™s teaching is about cultivating a sense of awe. Their message is â€œGd did things for me when I left Egypt.â€ Here we connect to the miraculous. What is overwhelmingly fantastic in this moment? I know that sometimes I can seem shy.