'Hate the donut, don't hate the fatty!' Plus-size woman slams Ariana Grande for turning her donut-licking apology into a hypocritical, fat-shaming rant Meghan Tonjes, 29, says that Ariana's initial apology - in which she spoke about obesity in America - made her angry She notes that it's unfair to criticize fat people for eating donuts when she herself was buying them Meghan points out that you can't know a person's diet solely based on their appearance, noting people are often surprised at how little she eats e popular plus-size YouTube star is speaking out about popstar Ariana Grande’s donut-licking incident, to point out the hypocracy of the star's 'I hate America' rant. Meghan Tonjes, 29, thinks it's pretty sanctimonious of the 22-year-old Love Me Harder singer to rail against obesity in America, when she herself was at a donut shop, as it implies that it's only OK for thin people to eat fattening food. 'I promise that if we could look at every person and see exactly what their diet was all of the time and judge them based on that, people would just act a lot differently,' she says in one of her latest YouTube videos. http://i.***************/i/pix/2015/07/21/18/2ABA691500000578-3169783-image-m-18_1437500566744.jpg Not fair: Meghan said that if she eats pizza at 300lbs, she is considered disgusting, but if a 120lb-girl eats pizza, she's cute http://i.***************/i/pix/2015/07/21/18/2A81720900000578-3169783-image-m-19_1437500578146.jpg Two weeks ago, Ariana visited a now-infamous California bakery, and began licking donuts with no intention of buying them. When a store employee brought out another tray of baked goods, the singer proclaimed: 'I hate Americans. I hate America.' After receiving backlash for both the unhygienic display and her harsh words, Ariana took to YouTube to apologize. But many people believed that her first apology - in which she discussed her frustration with the country's childhood obesity rates - shifted focus and blame, instead of demonstrating that she was taking responsibility for her actions. 'If I were 120lbs eating a pizza in my underwear on Tumblr, I would be quirky and cute and real,' Meghan says. 'But if I'm 300lbs and I'm eating pizza in my underwear, people are like: "You're killing yourself", "You're disgusting", "You're everything that's wrong with America".' Meghan insists that she doesn't hate Ariana - in fact, she accepted her second apology, which also expressed regret for getting on a soap box during her first apology. But she does think that the way the star redirected the conversation to talk about obesity in America didn't just serve to distract people from the fact that 'she licked some donuts, and that's f***ing gross', her words were also hurtful because of how they play into the greater misconception that only fat people eat unhealthily - especially because Ariana herself was buying donuts that day. The YouTuber said that many of her friends and family members have even remarked in surprise that she doesn't actually eat that much, saying things like: 'You look like that, but you don't eat like that.' 'People are shocked that someone who looks like me doesn't sit all day on the couch and eat pizza,' she says. 'And you know what? Sometimes I do, because sometimes everybody does! We live in a culture that glorifies food, but that we hate the people that we believe are representative of that sinful desire for food.' Meghan goes on to say that she even agrees that Ariana made a good point about the food industry, and there should be a conversation about food and health in this country - but it shouldn't focus solely on overweight people. http://i.***************/i/pix/2015/07/21/18/2ABA690B00000578-3169783-image-m-13_1437500484507.jpg 'If we want to sit here and believe that it's just the fat people in America who are doing this, it's not,' she says. 'And I'm living it, and I have direct experience with how people look at me and how people treat me based on what they think I eat. And defining my worth by that. And then using me as an example of everything that's wrong with the world.' She explains that you can't possibly know how much or how healthily a person eats just by looking at them. Plenty of thin people eat poorly, but the difference, she says, is that if you're thin, 'people don't know that you went and got a quarter pounder. But people look at me and assume I ate four this morning for breakfast. 'At the end of the day, I'm the only one who knows what I eat,' she continues. 'I wish people remembered that fat people are people.' And on that note, she drives home the point that while the prevalence of fattening food might be a problem, fat people aren't the only ones eating it: 'You can hate the donut, but you don't have to hate the fatty .'