Have you ever noticed the peculiar tendency you have to let praise pass through you..

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    Have you ever noticed the peculiar tendency you have to let praise pass through you, but feel crushed by criticism?

    A thousand positive remarks can slip by unnoticed, but one “you suck†can linger in your head for days. One hypothesis as to why this and the backfire effect happens is that you spend much more time considering information you disagree with than you do information you accept. Information which lines up with what you already believe passes through the mind like a vapor, but when you come across something which threatens your beliefs, something which conflicts with your preconceived notions of how the world works, you seize up and take notice. Some psychologists speculate there is an evolutionary explanation. Your ancestors paid more attention and spent more time thinking about negative stimuli than positive because bad things required a response. Those who failed to address negative stimuli failed to keep breathing.

    In 1992, Peter Ditto and David Lopez conducted a study in which subjects dipped little strips of paper into cups filled with saliva. The paper wasn’t special, but the psychologists told half the subjects the strips would turn green if he or she had a terrible pancreatic disorder and told the other half it would turn green if they were free and clear. For both groups, they said the reaction would take about 20 seconds. The people who were told the strip would turn green if they were safe tended to wait much longer to see the results, far past the time they were told it would take. When it didn’t change colors, 52 percent retested themselves. The other group, the ones for whom a green strip would be very bad news, tended to wait the 20 seconds and move on. Only 18 percent retested.


    When you read a negative comment, when someone shits on what you love, when your beliefs are challenged, you pore over the data, picking it apart, searching for weakness. The cognitive dissonance locks up the gears of your mind until you deal with it. In the process you form more neural connections, build new memories and put out effort – once you finally move on, your original convictions are stronger than ever.

    http://youarenotsosmart.com/2011/06/10/the-backfire-effect/
     
  2. telecaster

    telecaster Get Yer Ya Ya's Out

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    ........Hey Now!
     
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    Nah, I am loved by everyone:crazy2:
     
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    long time
     
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    I borrowed Howard's Rose Colored Glasses..
     
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    what is this thing "positive remarks" that you talk about? i work for a living, therefore i only hear scathing criticisms.
     
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    Can you imagine Beth getting a Performance Review for Mom Caves?
    Communication: 1 out of 5. Run on sentences, not concise
    Presentation: 1. flailing hands
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