How can I help? The death of a child.....

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  1. Slippy

    Slippy Well-Known Member VIP

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    fuck me running

    My little cousin died in a car crash last August...........August 30th, to be precise. I got the call at an ungodly time August 31st. He was 28.

    I love my aunt so much, so dearly - every post on FB is just heartbreaking, though. I don't know wtf to say to her. I don't know how to help, how to be, what to be. I want to fly down and spend time with her, but I just envision an uncomfortable silence.

    fucking busting my cold dead heart apart :sad:

    WTF do you do? Or is there even anything you can do?
     
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    the last post - had me bawling like a little girl
     
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    Snort And so we pass on by the crimson eye Gold

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    dammit.........

     
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    Snort And so we pass on by the crimson eye Gold

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    For real though, sorry. It's terrible.
     
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    ^^^ that was her last one

    Cried like a little girl.
     
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    I know. fuck
     
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    Lemmy Douchebag Extraordinaire Gold

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    Tell her just what you said. That you love her dearly, you are not sure what to say to her and that you'd like to help her in some way.
     
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    Mike No Justice No Peace Gold

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    seems a little late to be asking for advice
     
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    yosemite sam Camel Jockey Gold

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    Slippy you should immediately come over and sit on my face.
     
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    This is a great place for serious advice.
     
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    Slippy Well-Known Member VIP

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    I regretted this thread the moment I hit "post".

    *sigh*

    I actually considered changing the title and erasing it all - but y'all can fuck y'all's selves.

    It's eating me up inside. Makes me "feel" and shit. I hate "feeling".
     
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    :facepalm:

    I know. I'm a motherfucking sucker for punishment.
     
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    yosemite sam Camel Jockey Gold

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    I got a 6 inch tongue and I will motorboat you for 2 hours.
     
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    Send them a card with 20 dollars in it
     
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    This. Let her know and acknowledge her loss. There is nothing that will help her of take the hurt away.
     
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    He is vis me now