Its been well over a decade since I met my wife, but it started off great until I saw the spiteful manipulation they hid beneath the surface. Things were bad for a while as I quickly told them that I saw through their bullshit and I would tolerate it. Then years after we were married and very little contact outside of a few holidays per year I finally told them that enough is enough with awkwardness whenever we are all together and we put it behind us to where things are cordial. But several of my married friends have absolute horror stories of continued fighting or just cutting them out completely. Is it because you are mixing two very different groups of people? Do people usually go into a relationship with inlaws with expectations that aren't met that exacerbate minor negative behavior? Or are some people just that fucked up.