How is your relationship with your inlaws?

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  1. NyMarkNy

    NyMarkNy VIP Extreme Gold

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    Its been well over a decade since I met my wife, but it started off great until I saw the spiteful manipulation they hid beneath the surface. Things were bad for a while as I quickly told them that I saw through their bullshit and I would tolerate it. Then years after we were married and very little contact outside of a few holidays per year I finally told them that enough is enough with awkwardness whenever we are all together and we put it behind us to where things are cordial.

    But several of my married friends have absolute horror stories of continued fighting or just cutting them out completely. Is it because you are mixing two very different groups of people? Do people usually go into a relationship with inlaws with expectations that aren't met that exacerbate minor negative behavior? Or are some people just that fucked up.
     
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    BethSucks Well-Known Member Staff Member

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    Father in law - fine, he's pretty mellow. Mother in law is a cunt, always manipulating and messing with my wife's head. She and my wife got into it a couple years ago and didn't speak for months, it was so pleasant, but they've since re-connected, it's kind of a stand-off when she's around, we don't interact.
     
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  3. Mr. Potato Head

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    Meh. :coffee:
     
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    I was blessed to have the MOST incredible mother-in-law ON THE PLANET. I could not possibly have loved her more of she was my birth mother. She was my "other mother" from the time I was 17 years old.

    She's been gone two years now, and I miss her and think about her every single day :(
     
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    Jayla Ou ai-je l'esprit? Gold

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    They're okay, some better than others. I am certain a big part of the reason I am able to be "meh" as opposed to "grrrr!" though is that I don't see them too often.
     
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  6. Jayla

    Jayla Ou ai-je l'esprit? Gold

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    My mother-in-law has always been great to me too. A little delusional about her kiddos though. :) I guess all mommies are.
     
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    captbill Well-Known Member

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    My mother in-law was a meddling pain in the ass. My father in-law was a bastard and did some really hateful things to my wife, his daughter.

    My parents weren't much better. My mother was so bad I did not speak to her the last 3 years she was alive. When she died, her "husband" tried to give me a bad time in front of a group of people, but I set him straight real quick. He then said I was correct and apologized in front of the group of people. His sister came up to me and said she agreed with me and thanked me for saying it to him. My dad was OK, just set in his ways and didn't understand that other people had other ways of doing things, not his way.

    They are all dead now. The only one I wish was still around is my dad. When I speak of my father in-law around my wife and even when she is not around, I call him an ass-hole and she does not get mad. She now realizes what I had been telling her about him for several years.
     
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    married in 77',in-laws left Jersey and moved to Cali.
    they passed in 96' and 97'
    didn't see them that much.
     
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    You're very lucky to have experienced that at least. Its the same thing my wife says about my mom. She calls my mom almost every day, they go shopping together, they plan parties together, etc. They just kick it and its awesome because I know my parents would lay their lives down for her just like they would for me. Of course her parents make it seem like they laid their lives down for us because they made us lunch, but thats a different story. W
     
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    I get along great with my in-laws.

    I love them and they love me.

    The problem is that my wife fights with her sister and her aunts, off and on.

    There's always some sort of silly feud going on.

    I ignore it.
     
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    the key to having good inlaws is not to have inlaws.

    i dont grasp why guys get married
     
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    Men hate that stuff, right?
     
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    It's usually some silly, self inflicted drama.

    So, yes.
     
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    Because its fun to throw a massive fucking party, get gifts, and go through the whole tradition. Whether you get married or not, being with someone for a long time inevitably involves the two families also coming together. For my wife and I getting married was an excuse to throw the best party ever, have great food/drinks with friends and family, and have a whole party centered around the love my now wife and I have for each other.

    Marriage to me a is beautiful thing as long as you make the decision not just emotionally, but logically as well.
     
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    I adored my Father in law and my step father in law (RIP)

    I haven't spoken to or even acknowledged my vile cunt of a mother in law in just over a decade.

    Don't ever mix business and family.:)
     
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    Did you serve eggs and how was your wife's titty dress ?
     
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    My inlaws are fucking white thrash retards excuse me ... White thrash conquers , I have no idea how my wife isn't like them and escaped that hell
     
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    Apple the cat Moral conscience of the Shed

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    First wife's mom was an absolute manipulative cunt as well as a drunk, step father was merely a spineless drunk- couldn't stand to be around either of them, which caused a lot of friction in the marriage. Second wife's mom was a cool (but mildly crazy) lady, she lived in MIL apartment in my basement until she passed. Her father was a New England college professor, pissed at me because I made more than he did doing a blue collar job.
     
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    They are great to me.
    Never refrain from condescension & do their utmost to make me feel part of "the family".

    My mother died?
    They all flew down to console me & to attend her funeral.
    They understand that I have no other blood kin in this world.
    They have sort of adopted me.
    After all, I'm the only one in their family that 1/2 way relates to their only grandchild.

    They spend vast amounts of money on distractions for me.
    And my wife of course.

    They mean well, they are kind, open minded, and I am not of their lineage.
    I married the best one of their three daughters.
    That she chose me puzzles them - but they are a tolerant lot.

    Me?
    Not so much.

    But in lieu of next of kin, I have come to -as you normals say- love them.

    I have no complaints.
     
  20. Pussy Tendon

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    First set of in-laws, liked me better than the wife. Even after the divorce!

    Second set, same story. No divorce as of yet.

    I marry cunts, apparently.