How many here signed a prenup before marriage?

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  1. NyMarkNy

    NyMarkNy VIP Extreme Gold

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    Whether you did or did not, what was the reason?

    I sure as hell got a prenup and I didnt have much to my name when I decided to get married to my wife. But I wanted to make sure in the event anything happens between us I dont get royally screwed by a judge. It was also a solid test to see if my wife would still get married even if I asked her to sign one and asked for inclusions in the agreement for potential alimony far below what a judge would typically grant.

    In the end we did, both had lawyers that handled the matter, and keep it in a fireproof safe. To be its an essential insurance policy for anyone who is married. In life you the most critical protections are health/life/car/homeowners insurance and marriage insurance.
     
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  2. JameGumb

    JameGumb We're all out of toner!

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    Marriage :jj:
     
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    Tipsey Russell VIP Extreme Gold

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    we didn't sign one

    as we had a combined net worth of $12 when we got married
     
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  4. babybear

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    I got married in 1977

    no prenup.
     
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    oldpaddy Well-Known Member

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    Nope. Anyone who isn't rich has no reason to get one. Only thing it's going to do is cause trouble.
     
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    YodaQuiversStern Turn and face the strange

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    We both wanted one. I have some stuff to protect and he has business assets. No big thing.
     
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  7. Jayla

    Jayla Ou ai-je l'esprit? Gold

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    I'm not against them, but if a guy asked me to accept something far below what a fair judge would grant, I'd tell him see ya. I figure if a guy loved and vetted me enough to ask me to spend his life with him, he shouldn't be "testing" me at that point. Did your wife test you?

    My answer presumes the man is earning much more, we have kids and I've taken off time to raise them per a mutual agreement. I suppose it's different if you're both earners with no kids. But unless you're comfortable with infant to high school stranger care, a woman puts herself at a big economic disadvantage to have and raise kids.
     
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    Mr Sinister Gold

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    :jj:


    I had maybe a dollar 50 my wife had money though she should have made me sign one
     
  9. Jayla

    Jayla Ou ai-je l'esprit? Gold

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    We were 22 and 26 when we got married. We had nothing. Maybe my perspective is skewed because of my life experience, I don't know.
     
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    Well I didnt fuck her over in the agreement, no lawyer would allow that and she had her own attorney arguing for her cause in the prenup.

    However I did stipulate x number of years that I would pay alimony in the event of a divorce, after which point payments stop. And the big provision I wanted was that if we had no children and got divorced, there would be zero alimony as she was working and fully capable of finding work in the event of a divorce where children were not present.

    I wasnt actively looking to test her, but I thought that if she really loved me she wouldnt expect me to take care of her forever once we had been divorced and it would be a no brainer on some of those provisions. I was 100% right, we had our lawyers take care of business, and over 20 years later were still together.
     
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    NyMarkNy VIP Extreme Gold

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    I simply look at it as marriage insurance. No one expects to have a fire in their home, but they still get homeowners insurance. No one expects marriage to not last forever, but you should still be prepared just in case.

    Better to decide how to divide things in the event of divorce when you have mutual respect and admiration for each other, and can think logically without emotion. If you wait to sort shit out when the end is at hand, you will make decisions based solely on emotion and that is stupid for all parties.
     
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    meanredhed Well-Known Member VIP Gold

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    We didn't sign one.

    I married my boss. He worked for his mother and she barely paid him enough to pay his rent and buy groceries. She had him under her thumb, exactly where she wanted him.

    When it came time that his contract was up, it was my money (thanks to investments and stuff from my wise parents) that bought our first store.

    We're 50-50 owners in our business. His mother still hates me for that....:)
     
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    If theres one thing sillier than getting married, its a pre-nup IMO.
     
  14. idiotbox

    idiotbox Looking for a dime and found a quarter. VIP

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    did not on the first, may on the second.
     
  15. Buzz

    Buzz Active Member

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    I didn't because my wife promised not to fuck me over. And I didn't want to pay for it.

    I'm sure this won't bite me in the end...
     
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    :lol:
     
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    Apple the cat Moral conscience of the Shed

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    Out of curiosity Red, what kind of stuff do you sell?