I can't fucking help it!

Discussion in 'The Bar' started by Slippy, Jun 27, 2012.

  1. Slippy

    Slippy Well-Known Member VIP Gold

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    I get abused so much for the drama I post.............does anybody SERIOUSLY think I sit down and think to myself: "hmmmmmmmmmmmm, Slippy, what could be more stressful or complicate your life a little more?"

    I don't. I enjoy peace. I don't believe for a single second that the rest of you don't have screwed up ex's, or damage to yourself, or fucked up family members though.

    I just talk about it more freely.

    now: my brother went into rehab just before Christmas

    Guy was drinking a 26er of vodka and 24 a day, on the way to and from work, while at work, while at home..........I can't even grasp how to slam that much alcohol into myself.

    He's been sober for 7 months (and a judgemental cunt the whole time for those of us who occasionally still had a beer at family functions). He flipped off the deep edge, on the weekend.

    He's gone. Came home drunk from work, pounded back 2 bottles of vodka, punched holes in the walls, tossed his wife around a little - then took her car and left. Gone.

    The only "texts" so far are "start divorce proceedings, I've got a new place already". Abandoned his job, home, wife and children............reasons undetermined.

    Is this my fucking fault? NO. I didn't leave my house all damn weekend. Do I still feel like there's something I should do about it? YES. I just don't fucking know what.

    I'm scared to tell my parents..........they are going through enough. Dad's recovering from his own health issues, my mom is walking him through it. So I sit quietly by myself, beating myself senseless on wtf it is that I'm supposed to do here..........knowing that SOMEBODY has to do SOMETHING.
     
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    Satori Brah Well-Known Member

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    let the mods handle it
     
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    SIPAWITZ Bialy Whore Banned User

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  4. Slippy

    Slippy Well-Known Member VIP Gold

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    and I come here for tips and advice..............that IS my own poor choice and self-destructive behavior, I'll give you that............
     
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    Thelonious Davis Magical negro.

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    Slippy Well-Known Member VIP Gold

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    think I should give them his cell #? :bigthink:
     
  7. Thelonious Davis

    Thelonious Davis Magical negro.

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  8. MatthewT

    MatthewT Awaiting The Rapture VIP

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    it sucks to feel powerless in this situation slips, but you seem to be in a powerless position :dontknow:

    are there any kids to take care of?
     
  9. Avery

    Avery Well-Known Member Banned User

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    Call up that show Intervention.
     
  10. Slippy

    Slippy Well-Known Member VIP Gold

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    Little ones. He has 7 in total, by 4 different women...........but the home he just bailed on has the 2 smallest. 3 and 14 months.
     
  11. RH Goatcabin

    RH Goatcabin Notable Member VIP

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    My family life is Little House on the Prairie compared to yours...I'm just a boring loser who can barely keep his head above water...(assuming it even is)...
     
  12. Slippy

    Slippy Well-Known Member VIP Gold

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    ya think? I could do that............
     
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    h5htyt76757j Chyea Chyea Banned User

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    That nigga gots a mullet?
     
  14. MatthewT

    MatthewT Awaiting The Rapture VIP

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    there's what you do. help her take care of the kids. dude already had his exit plan set up and it's now executed
     
  15. Satori Brah

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    RH Goatcabin Notable Member VIP

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    I think your brother is the one with self destructive tendencies, not you, my little gummy bear. :flowers:
     
  17. MatthewT

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    and she needs to prepare for him coming back sober and begging that he made a huuuuuge mistake when his mistress gets boring all of a sudden
     
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    Avery Well-Known Member Banned User

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    I agree with matthew :derp:
     
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    Better yet...give us his cell #
     
  20. Reggae Mistress

    Reggae Mistress Old Catcher's Mitt

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    There isn't anything to do, aside from reaching out to him, offer support in his sobriety and let him go. It's his addiction. It is up to his wife, to press charges, if warranted.
    It sucks sista, I'm really sorry you are going through this and feeling helpless.