i have a feeling that a lot of your here are introverts

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  1. geo

    geo Well-Known Member

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    what do you think :shitcoffee:

    • Introverts catch a lot of shit for being introverted. The whole world seems so enamored by extroverts – the people we know who just want to be around people all the time. While we introverts might not want that, it doesn’t mean we’re depressed or suicidal or anything wacky like that. There are some things you should know about us.

      1. Small talk sucks.

      We’re just not very good at it. We’re typically the big-thinking types. We like big ideas and theories. Small talk is uncomfortable. We don’t care about the weather or how your cat has been doing.

      2. Being alone is fine.

      Seriously, we’re doing okay, even if we hole up in our houses for a while. We don’t need other people for stimulation. We find that ourselves.

      3. We aren’t rude or uptight.

      We might seem like that at first, but get to know us. We’re still a fun bunch of friends, we just don’t always acclimate to unfamiliar settings and people so quickly.

      4. Sometimes, we swing both ways.

      We might be introverts, but sometimes we are just so the life of the party. We do this willingly when we’re up to it, but we can’t always keep that kind of energy going. If we throw a party, great! But give us some time to recover.

      5. We have friends. And they like us! Probably.

      People hear the word ‘introvert’ and think of the goth kid sitting alone at the food court. That’s a whole different thing entirely. We love having friends, and our friends love having us! We put in a conscious effort for people we think are worth it.

      6. When with the right people, we feel safe.

      Having the right people in our lives is amazing. we really give our best selves to the best people. We shine in the right company. But sometimes it takes a while to find those people.

      7. We like to write things out.

      Writing is easier than talking for us sometimes. Email is the best because it helps us get the thoughts out of our heads without being interrupted. Thinking about giving us a call? Try a text or email instead.

      8. We’re super productive.

      Sometimes at least. Usually in our alone time, we’re able to really rock and roll on projects that we need to finish. The solitude helps us, as we tend to be a bit more distractible than most.

      9. If we don’t like you, you won’t know it.

      It’s the truth of the matter. We hate conflict. So even if we don’t like you, we’ll still be nice. It’s a lot easier than being real with you. Especially if your feelings are inconsequential enough that confronting you on your bullshit isn’t even worth the time. Sorry. Well, not sorry.

      10. Networking events suck.

      Seriously. Is there a mailing list we need to opt out of? There are few things more uncomfortable than a networking party. Except maybe a dentist’s networking party that we’ve just been accidentally invited to.

      11. We don’t like crowds.

      Though I find that after a few beers, I can tolerate it. Introverts tend to get overstimulated easily, so big crowds aare tough to deal with.

      12. Sorry, we probably weren’t listening to your story.

      We care deeply about our friends, but people outside of that circle will have a tough time maintaining our attention. It’s not that we have ADD or anything like that, we just don’t really care about you. On the plus side, we won’t judge you, so feel free to tell us all the fucked up things you said to your ex.

      13. Don’t make a fuss out of our birthdays.

      For the longest time, I had a great deal of difficulty understanding why I hated my birthday so much. Everyone I ever knew would come out and party with me! But then I realized: that’s the problem! We don’t need to make a fuss out of our birthdays, so please don’t do it to us.

      14. We don’t want to make a fuss out of your birthday.

      We can quietly honor the annual birthday, right?

      15. If we’ve chosen to be friends with you, appreciate it.

      We value our alone time. If we see you often, it means that we really love you. Just don’t get too bummed out when we don’t hang for a week at a time sometimes.
     
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    Guilty. On the Myers-Briggs I'm off the chart introvert.
     
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  3. geo

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    are they famous introverts?
     
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    gwartney Unafilliated Gold

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    No, that's a personality test that a lot of businesses use. The first time I ever took it was with a group of about 100. Me and the president of the company scored exactly alike as being real introverted.
     
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    Your thread title is tasting my balls right now...
     
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    You don't say :jj:
     
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    I wish I'd never taken it. I just use being introverted as an excuse to not socialize or network or whatever. If I didn't know for sure, I think I might try harder. You can be introverted as hell and still be really outgoing if you work at it.
     
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    plz no ag references in my thrad :fil:
     
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    not me :dancin:
     
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    geo Well-Known Member

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    :lo5:
     
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    11-14 especially true for me.
     
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    oh look, sammyr is back.
     
  14. geo

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    most handsome people aren't :rolleye2:
     
  15. geo

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    i'm too introverted to work at it :shucks:
     
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    there are thousands of books written about your personality type, not good
     
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    :sleep:
     
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    cool story, but I wasn't listening
     
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    I'm usually pretty extroverted. I'm often attracted to introverts. I feel like we provide a nice balance for each other. I love extroverts too but it seems the people I spend the most time with are introverts. I love their peace and calm.
     
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    im a fun outgoing guy. :dontknow:
     
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