I turned 40 and am knee-deep in a mid-life crisis

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  1. Dainty Jainty

    Dainty Jainty New Member

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    I figured the "mid-life crisis" phenomenon only happened to a few people until it hit me hard like a punch to the neck.

    I turned 40 in August. I work in a field (finance) totally unrelated to my talents and higher education (artistic talent, BA and MA in forensic psychology).

    I just got back from a glorious vacation in Australia (my fourth visit to that beautiful country) and do NOT want to return to work on Wednesday. I've lived in NYC for 22 years and can't stand it anymore. Hate the assholes, hate the noise, hate the grit.

    I feel the need to make serious changes in my life. I want to quit my job, sublet my apartment, move to the country, live off my savings and sublet fees, and start fresh with a quiet part-time job somewhere in my new environs and use my free time to explore nature and work on my art work.

    My boyfriend says I can definitely do all that! I have the savings to get me by for a few years if I get no work (coupled with the sublet fees, I'd be pretty nicely set). But I'm too chicken shit to make such a big change. I make decent money and am too scared to leave it behind (I grew up poor so the idea of going back to living on meager wages scares me).

    I feel so stressed and confused and tired of this all, I want to cry. :(
     
  2. Capn Crud

    Capn Crud The Pride of Cucamonga VIP Gold

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    Bjs are important when we get old too
     
  3. BleedingGums

    BleedingGums Fesh Fox Faggot VIP

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    Cry harder faggot!!!
     
  4. Dainty Jainty

    Dainty Jainty New Member

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    lol! I was waiting for that! I'm a woman, btw. :)
     
  5. Lemmy

    Lemmy Douchebag Extraordinaire Gold

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    Gotta be happy. Making $$$$ isn't everything and country living is wonderful.
     
  6. stripes

    stripes Active Member Banned User

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    what is your current career?
     
  7. Stew Nod

    Stew Nod Well-Known Member Banned User

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    Just buy a harley like I did...you'll get over it!
     
  8. A Succulent Chinese Meal

    A Succulent Chinese Meal Working My Nuts Off VIP

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    Better to do this when you have money and life experience as you do than when you're a 20 year old broke moron.
     
  9. Stew Nod

    Stew Nod Well-Known Member Banned User

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    Of course what you are suggesting sound fan-fucking-fabulo-tastic and I'd do it in a minute if I could....so yes, I'm jealous
     
  10. keywordpk

    keywordpk Perpetual Geek Gold

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    How far from the city are you thinking? Another state? What kind of interests do you have that might lead you into another career direction?



    It sounds like a great opportunity to see what's out there and really figure out what your passion is. It would be an adventure, for sure.
     
  11. Satori Brah

    Satori Brah Well-Known Member

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    How bout some dick? :c
     
  12. A Succulent Chinese Meal

    A Succulent Chinese Meal Working My Nuts Off VIP

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    Smoke da krack, fresh dick, get high in the hough house!
     
  13. gwartney

    gwartney Is there gas in the car? VIP

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    You only go around once in life. If you aren't happy with it and you don't make the change, you may look back in ten years and think that you wasted those ten years. Sounds like you aren't just jumping into it without planning so you're all the better for that. I'm currently changing careers and I only wish I'd (financially) planned it out as well as you appear to have.
     
  14. Harry Gibbs

    Harry Gibbs the boss of all men

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    do it faggit.
     
  15. Mr Sinister

    Mr Sinister Gold

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    Sounds like you actually thought about this and have a pretty decent plan id say go for it. If it doesn't work out move back to the city find another job and live miserably like every one else
     
  16. babybear

    babybear r.i.p 8/3/15, Wherewolf of AZ

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    we left Jersey 20 yrs ago.quit good jobs to start over here in AZ with 2 boys and no jobs,it helped we paid cash for a house.the boys have done well and so have we.

    you are single and no kids ?

    do it.
     
  17. Doug Masters

    Doug Masters ok

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    get a motorcycle

    do lots of coke

    and fuck a lot of whoars

    :whistle:

    oh wait

    you're a chick

    fuck a lot of whoars :yes:
     
  18. Avery

    Avery Well-Known Member Banned User

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    Translation: I need to get away from all these colored folks.
     
  19. Mack

    Mack Well-Known Member VIP

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    How do you feel about North Idaho/Eastern Washington? My wife has openings for a Loan Officer (Personal Banker) and a Operations Manager. :dontknow:
     
  20. Mack

    Mack Well-Known Member VIP

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    Then Idaho would be perfect...