In all seriousness...

Discussion in 'The Bar' started by Mr. Potato Head, Oct 14, 2010.

  1. Mr. Potato Head

    Mr. Potato Head ~Would Like to Play~ Gold

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    Is it OK to send condolences on facebook to an ex? It was simply a high school thing, but it did end badly(I cheated on her after 2 years, yes, I'm the asshole). Her mother just passed(from breast cancer). She was a great lady. I just want to let her know that I do feel bad about it, but I don't want to come across as a stalker. We still have many mutual friends,which is how I heard about it, but haven't personally talked for years. Just wondering what people that don't know me or her would think about it. I expect to get ripped for this. Thanks anyways.
     
  2. k4D3t

    k4D3t Reverse Apache Master VIP

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    I wouldn't, but I'm colder than most.
     
  3. eliasbboy

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    All that matters in a situation like this is your ex's feelings. If hearing from you would bring her any bit of joy or solace, do it in a heartbeat. If your message would just confuse her or remind her of something painful, do not send condolences because it would make you feel better.

    Just my two cents.
     
  4. eliasbboy

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    Yeah yeah, we know you're a lawyer.
     
  5. tomtom

    tomtom Well-Known Member

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    I dated a girl my sophmore year in 1983, her dad died in 1994 I didn't send condolences. I don't know why I didn't, I just didn't. Then in 2000 I met back up with her and we married. I regret not sending a card to this day.
     
  6. Napoleon V2

    Napoleon V2 New Member Banned User

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    what a creep
     
  8. k4D3t

    k4D3t Reverse Apache Master VIP

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    it's not that -- when i'm done with someone, i'm done with them -- end of story
     
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  9. x76

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    Do yourself a favor and find a stationery store, buy some tasteful notecards, find a decent pen, and HANDWRITE a short note expressing your condolences. DO NOT USE E-ANYTHING IN PLACE OF A HANDWRITTEN NOTE!

    You're welcome.
     
  10. bill

    bill Goofballa from Ding Dong U VIP Gold

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    Zackly right.
     
  11. Bye You!

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    a truly excellent idea!
     
  12. k4D3t

    k4D3t Reverse Apache Master VIP

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    :lol: hadn't seen that one before :D
     
  13. margaretkunt

    margaretkunt New Member Banned User

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    I regret the day that my nan died and I had called her a silly bitch the day before.
     
  14. Atomic Wedgie

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    Send her a nice note, she'll thank you with a sloppy BJ.
     
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    God I was all ready to post something snarky; but after reading your response, I now feel bad about what I was going to post.
     
  16. JustAddWater

    JustAddWater Well-Known Member

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    It might spark something up. ;) and lead to something more.
    Maybe it's meant to be.
     
  17. eliasbboy

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    I NEVER want to stand in the way of snarky. PLEASE! Snark away.
     
  18. eliasbboy

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    I know, I'm just teasin. Being shallow comes in very helpful. I enjoy it thoroughly.
     
  19. PullMyFinger

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    You should go to the funeral services. Maybe you can hook up with one of her hot cousins.
     
  20. Mark Mayonnaise

    Mark Mayonnaise You look like a tree! VIP Gold

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    Send her a card that says My Condolences...

    And on the inside it says

    First I cheated on your fat ass, now this!!! HA HA!!! SHOVE THIS CARD UP YOUR DEAD MOM'S ASS, BITCH!!!