is it cool to go to bars by yourself?

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  1. greyt

    greyt Well-Known Member

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    I'm going through a few life changes here....recently single and in a new city. I don't really know a soul here except for a few people I work with. I've been hitting up some bars in the area just to watch baseball games, have a few drinks and hang out a bit. I'm not even looking to hook up or anything really, just for something to do....yet I feel sort of self conscious. I never cared about this kind of shit before but I'm in my mid-30s now so I'm examining things more closely so I don't come across as some sort of delusional old weirdo (like a certain radio DJ). I don't really know what my point is here.....just wondering. oh yeah, and i'm drunk right now
     
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    you need some kratom
     
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    HowardsNeckFlap New Member Banned User

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    it'll open you right up
     
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    Don't worry about it.
     
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    Yes. I wish I had the desire.
     
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    greyt Well-Known Member

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    yeah this probably sounds like a real pussy thread. it's just weird getting slightly older, you have to watch yourself or you can look like a fool
     
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    Do what you need to do to get by. Don't worry too much about what others think of you because no matter what you are, someone out there hates you for what you are not.
     
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    Only to watch sports or to have a drink or two. Getting shitfaced by yourself at a bar is when you crossover to patheticville.
     
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    It's ok to go to a bar by yourself. Just take you're own advice. Watch yourself and don't look like a fool.
     
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    If you aren't looking to hook up then why bother with a bar? Find people who do the same things you do. Pinball, video games, model helicopter flying (watch your head), music production, book reading, poetry. People go to bars to drink and socialize. If you aren't socializing then you're on the road to being a single drunk loser.

    Get some hobbies that are social. Find people who drink from those groups. Form a once a week/month drinking night. Worst case scenario you make friends who don't drink but you get a new hobby. Maybe organize a trip to a Mets game or something. But going to a bar alone without anyone else and not looking to hook up....you might as well just skip the alcoholism and save yourself the aggravation.

    I have people over at my house because I own a dozen pinball machines. People cook, watch some NFL, watch some Game of Thrones, and they bring strangers so I make new friends. Only way to make new friends is to get mutual friends or make a few new friends and then build from there.
     
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    good points and thank you. I do have other hobbies and I am pursuing them. I just really like beer and going to the bar seems less pathetic than drinking alone (which, I must admit, I also do.....I have a six pack in the fridge for Breaking Bad tomorrow).
     
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    I should mention that I stopped in at the bar by the university this afternoon. school is just back in session and I didn't really know it was a college bar. that was the real eye opener that told me.. FUCK, I AM OLD. i'm just venting, really
     
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    What are your interests?? What are you into??
     
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    looks like he's into creeping on college chicks.
     
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    pretty much
     
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    They're fucking hawt! :jerk:
     
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    Well now you're looking like a fool.
     
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    Nothing wrong with it, but I'd feel uncomfortable personally. I also am not a bar person anymore. My advice would be to use the internet to find women to date and branch out your friendships from there. It's a tool that wasn't around years back that makes it downright easy vs just wandering around a bar.
     
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    You're*



    Now who looks like the fool? :c
     
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    just please don't tell me the cute bartenders are only being nice to me for the tip. I couldn't handle that.