So, my daughter, who is 6 has been complaining that her neighbor/"playmate" is mean to her. She says this about a lot of people and usually it's just a "my way" thing, so I didn't take it TOO seriously. Then the other day she said "Can I tell you what ***** said to me?" and I'm like "Of course!" and she says... "Promise you won't get mad?" And I'm like YES I promise... what did he say? She said "He said, 'I fucking hate you, Tahlia.' " What the FUCK??! I never would have dreamed of saying that to someone at 7-8 years old. I immediately called her dad and said he has to have a talk with this brat's mom and that I don't want her hanging out with him any more (they are his neighbors). I will NOT have my kid spoken to like that... not only does she not need those words thrown at her, she doesn't deserve such disrespect, and she's not on that level. I don't care if his mom is trash and he finds those words to be commonplace. My kid wouldn't dream of it. She shouldn't be hearing it, especially if it's directed at her. Fuck THAT. She's strong-willed, but she's a good kid. What a fucking brat!!! So my dilemma is... the balance of putting a fucking FEAR into this kid, vs allowing my kid to fight her own battles. I'll stand up for her, but how much is too much? If she's to command any respect she'll have to know how to handle shit for herself, even when people are assholes. At her age, I'm willing to get this kid off her back. But at the same time she's got to show him she won't back the fuck down or take any disrespect if she's to be taken seriously in school and eventually the world.