It's weird the way men still pay such a large % when dating

Discussion in 'The Bar' started by Lucky Pierre, Jun 3, 2015.

  1. Lucky Pierre

    Lucky Pierre Well-Known Member

    Reputations:
    0
    Joined:
    Jan 21, 2012
    Messages:
    4,630
    Likes Received:
    2,760
    2015.

    Let's assume the following: guy and gal have the same income, they both like each other equally, both want to impress the other equally, both equally hope a relationship will develop and progress, etc.

    They meet online and for a first date, they meet at the park to walk their dogs or at a Starbucks - something very simple. Things go well. Guy asks her out for a real date.

    Soon after, he's taking her out for a nice dinner, then something fun afterwards. He pays for everything without hesitation as he should. The date goes really well and they both want to see each other again...

    Ok then... at this point... why shouldn't the costs of dating moving forward be 50/50? Shouldn't she insist on paying for and planning the next date?

    If you went out with a coworker or a friend or a neighbor, you wouldn't dream of expecting them to pay your way. Yet most (not all, congrats if you know an exception) women today have the attitude of, "I'm old fashion (you know, cause it benefits me in this case) I expect the guy to pay for the first 4-5 dates, then, after that... I offer to pay for my half or I'll do something for him, like cook him dinner".

    Whoa... easy there Ms. Generosity. He pays for the first 5 dates and in return, you offer to pay for your half (not the whole tab) or you offer to cook him a meal which costs a fraction of what he's spent on you.

    "No one is forcing him to pay". True, but if the guy doesn't play along, he knows he'll be branded as a cheap asshole and he knows that she will most likely lose interest if he attempts this path.

    Equal partners? lol.

    [​IMG]
     
    JustLurking and Summer like this.
  2. Gwarn1

    Gwarn1 Single VIP

    Reputations:
    22,934
    Joined:
    Dec 18, 2011
    Messages:
    73,800
    Likes Received:
    23,328
    Thats a lot of words
     
    XuXu, scoobyla and Anfkid like this.
  3. Johnnykstaint

    Johnnykstaint A real one way mother f-er Gold

    Reputations:
    33,583
    Joined:
    Sep 17, 2010
    Messages:
    49,486
    Likes Received:
    27,595
    I agree with everything you're saying but until women want cock, as much and as desperately as men want vag....this is how its gonna be.
     
  4. gwartney

    gwartney Is there gas in the car? Gold

    Reputations:
    37,687
    Joined:
    Sep 23, 2010
    Messages:
    50,313
    Likes Received:
    24,104
    Gwarn gives them 9 inches to think about after he pays. Yes, he fucks them 3 times.
     
    XuXu and Johnnykstaint like this.
  5. Lucky Pierre

    Lucky Pierre Well-Known Member

    Reputations:
    0
    Joined:
    Jan 21, 2012
    Messages:
    4,630
    Likes Received:
    2,760
    Good point, except in this dating example we're talking about a woman who is really interested in a specific guy, she's attracted to him, she wants to see him more, hopes a relationship develops, etc. The sexual attraction for someone in her position wouldn't be an issue.
     
  6. Johnnykstaint

    Johnnykstaint A real one way mother f-er Gold

    Reputations:
    33,583
    Joined:
    Sep 17, 2010
    Messages:
    49,486
    Likes Received:
    27,595
    All those desires, hopes for a relationship, etc. magnified a trillion times dont start to measure up to a guys desire for pussy, IMO. Its like comparing the energy of a trained, under control horse to a super nova.

    Maybe, part of it is also that old habits die hard. Culturally bred-in customs are tough to shake.
     
  7. NipplesAndToes23

    NipplesAndToes23 Assistant to the Vice POTY VIP

    Reputations:
    39,344
    Joined:
    Oct 13, 2010
    Messages:
    33,184
    Likes Received:
    22,081
    I have no problem paying the majority of the time as long as I'm getting laid. When I first meet a chick I'll only take her on very affordable dates (preferably free shit) until I can confirm her pubic hair grooming situation. It's been my experience that once we've established that we both like each other most chicks offer to pick up the tab between 30-40% of the time.
     
    Last edited: Jun 3, 2015
  8. Lucky Pierre

    Lucky Pierre Well-Known Member

    Reputations:
    0
    Joined:
    Jan 21, 2012
    Messages:
    4,630
    Likes Received:
    2,760
    Exactly.

    Once you've established that you like each other (i.e. after you've paid for everything up until this point), then she'll offer to pay for ~30%. She can only "offer"? She can't plan for and pay (not offer to pay) for everything 50% of the time?

    Exactly my point.
     
  9. NipplesAndToes23

    NipplesAndToes23 Assistant to the Vice POTY VIP

    Reputations:
    39,344
    Joined:
    Oct 13, 2010
    Messages:
    33,184
    Likes Received:
    22,081

    My point is as long as I get to fuck her with no rubber after the date wgas/wgaf.
     
  10. NipplesAndToes23

    NipplesAndToes23 Assistant to the Vice POTY VIP

    Reputations:
    39,344
    Joined:
    Oct 13, 2010
    Messages:
    33,184
    Likes Received:
    22,081
    LP, men and women are not equal. Men are smarter and more resourceful. That's why we pay more.
     
    Lucky Pierre likes this.
  11. Lucky Pierre

    Lucky Pierre Well-Known Member

    Reputations:
    0
    Joined:
    Jan 21, 2012
    Messages:
    4,630
    Likes Received:
    2,760
    PS: When women "offer to pay" they privately are hoping you refuse their offer and a large majority (not all) will count it against you if you allow them to pay.
     
  12. Lucky Pierre

    Lucky Pierre Well-Known Member

    Reputations:
    0
    Joined:
    Jan 21, 2012
    Messages:
    4,630
    Likes Received:
    2,760
    Now, that's a completely different point - but very insightful too.
     
  13. NipplesAndToes23

    NipplesAndToes23 Assistant to the Vice POTY VIP

    Reputations:
    39,344
    Joined:
    Oct 13, 2010
    Messages:
    33,184
    Likes Received:
    22,081

    :jj: You're starting to sound like a guy who hasn't been on a date in ages and who's speaking theoretically.
     
    XuXu likes this.
  14. BrulesRules

    BrulesRules Just grab 'em in the biscuits VIP

    Reputations:
    137,133
    Joined:
    Jan 18, 2012
    Messages:
    156,750
    Likes Received:
    86,808
    I would say I pay for 90% of the meals in my relationship, bunch of bullshit.
     
    Lucky Pierre likes this.
  15. Shivvy

    Shivvy VIP Extreme Gold

    Reputations:
    197,357
    Joined:
    May 23, 2011
    Messages:
    148,777
    Likes Received:
    79,723
    bitches still want men to buy their drinks
     
  16. Johnnykstaint

    Johnnykstaint A real one way mother f-er Gold

    Reputations:
    33,583
    Joined:
    Sep 17, 2010
    Messages:
    49,486
    Likes Received:
    27,595
    Even when my woman is paying, she gives me the cash to buy drinks, etc. so it LOOKS like Im paying.
     
  17. Mojopin

    Mojopin Resplendent in his frock

    Reputations:
    33,269
    Joined:
    Sep 19, 2010
    Messages:
    24,680
    Likes Received:
    28,371
    All I know is, a smoking hot 21 year old girl can make me do anything she wants.
     
    BrulesRules likes this.
  18. BrulesRules

    BrulesRules Just grab 'em in the biscuits VIP

    Reputations:
    137,133
    Joined:
    Jan 18, 2012
    Messages:
    156,750
    Likes Received:
    86,808
    sadly this is true.
     
  19. maroon

    maroon Well-Known Member Banned User

    Reputations:
    0
    Joined:
    May 1, 2015
    Messages:
    7,818
    Likes Received:
    10,979
    Just hit up the wobbly chicks right before closing time. They're primed and ready for a cheap fuck.
     
    Johnnykstaint likes this.
  20. gwartney

    gwartney Is there gas in the car? Gold

    Reputations:
    37,687
    Joined:
    Sep 23, 2010
    Messages:
    50,313
    Likes Received:
    24,104
    My fucking daughter can go out for the evening with another female friend and never spend a dime. I really don't want to know details about it other than that.
     
    XuXu likes this.