I've recognized my destructive pattern. Who else has one??! :c

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  1. deverrant

    deverrant VIP Extreme Gold

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    Recent discussions and efforts toward self-discovery led me to analyze my past a bit.
    I definitely notice a pattern here in the men I choose. And it's not one that will be to my avail in the end. But I don't know how to change who I'm attracted to. AND I'm sure I'm not the only one with these tendencies.

    So I made this little list in regards to the men I've dated and/or slept with in my life and how they fall into various categories. (And many of the categories overlap, so don't think you can use this list to determine my "number").

    Of the men I've dated and/or slept with this many have...

    Been arrested: 12
    Been in jail: 7
    Been drug dealers: 5
    Used drugs other than pot with more than "experimental" frequency: 13
    Abused drugs or alcohol: 4
    Cheated on their spouse or sign. other (not necessarily with me): 9
    As adults committed acts such as defacing public property, spitting on people from balconies, pissing in a stranger's car for parking them in , etc: 7
    Are emotionally needy/unstable: 5
    Repeatedly spent time in messageboard e-jails for various disobediences, most of which involve large pictures of food: 1
    None of the above: 1
    Graduated college: 4
    Secured high-paying jobs/make good income: 9
    Little if any of the above information is known because of the brevity/anonymity of the encounter: 2

    :facepalm:
     
  2. Satori Brah

    Satori Brah Well-Known Member

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    You're going to ruin it for guys like me :ixnay:
     
  3. deverrant

    deverrant VIP Extreme Gold

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    Okay so now here's the second part of this: While these results are both laughable AND pathetic, perhaps they can be put to use. In addition, I'm sure I'm not the ONLY one here who is drawn to people who are bad for them. So maybe make your own list.
    Here are some suggestions on characteristics that are not necessarily pertinent to my past, but often are for other people:

    People who are...

    Verbally/emotionally abusive,
    Physically abusive,
    Bad with money or spend frivolously,
    Habitual liars,
    Jealous or possessive,
    Controlling,
    Too passive,
    Sex addicts,
    OCD,
    Catholic

    ...has your pattern caused problems in your life? Have you tried and failed to change it? Have you tried and succeeded and if so, how?
     
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    gwartney Unafilliated Gold

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    So you had two quick fucks in a bar bathroom. That's hot!
     
  5. Tarpon1965

    Tarpon1965 Resident Dawg Whisperer

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    :jj:
     
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    Neesie Princess Parliaments VIP Gold

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    This seems important. :munch:
     
  7. deverrant

    deverrant VIP Extreme Gold

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    Oh. So there's NOTHING unsavory about you. Not ONE thing that would make some chicks run for the hills while making others wanna sink their claws in?
     
  8. deverrant

    deverrant VIP Extreme Gold

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    VERY. Make a list.

    Actually, don't... I don't want the site to crash.
     
  9. gwartney

    gwartney Unafilliated Gold

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    I'm with you all the way to Catholic. How does that fit in? I know lots of Catholics and am one. There is a huge difference between the go to church every week Catholic and the get struck by lightning if I enter a church Catholic. There are tons of in-between Catholics too.
     
  10. Satori Brah

    Satori Brah Well-Known Member

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    I think you misunderstood my post
     
  11. Mur

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    Sounds like a bunch of degenerates. :jj:
     
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    FtM Starless & Bible Black Gold

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    I got married at 19. My list is pathetically short. :eek:
     
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    wetback #1 Asshole VIP

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    You forgot to list fat over eaters :)
     
  14. deverrant

    deverrant VIP Extreme Gold

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    It was just a joke. Half my family's Catholic... the old-school kind.

    I guess. :dontknow:

    Wait... are you a troublemaker??! :marx:
     
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    RH Goatcabin Notable Member VIP

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    Don't feel bad Dev, I'm mostly attracted to women with tits like this:

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    ...and butts like this:

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    The heart wants what the heart wants...
     
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    deverrant VIP Extreme Gold

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    This has been established.

    It's not pathetic if you're happy! :)

    You talking about your own list??
     
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    Neesie Princess Parliaments VIP Gold

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    Bitch.

    :jj:


    I'm already out of sorts today. Don't make me do any "soul-searching" right now, plz. :D
     
  18. deverrant

    deverrant VIP Extreme Gold

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    ...and your heart is a chubby-chaser. That's nothing to be ashamed of.

    In some cultures.
     
  19. HeinousMark

    HeinousMark Creepy-Ass Cracka VIP

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    Sounds like I'm your type alright...:flowers:
     
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  20. Satori Brah

    Satori Brah Well-Known Member

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    :jj: not anymore. I was kidding.

    As a guy who use to do some bad shit, I can tell you that the women who want you for those reasons
    are not the women you end up wanting. I would bang them because I'm a guy but deep down I wanted
    someone who didn't like guys like me.