WTF Life choices

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  1. slowrollralph

    slowrollralph Active Member

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    First time I have started a topic. I feel this is a good place to get a plethora of opinions. There is a wide variety of people that post here...I'd say a lot are average, some highly intelligent, and some stupid. There are even sociopaths, losers, maniacs too. Good bell curve for this question...

    I am 28. I struggle everyday deciding what I want. I had a gf for 5 years. We had a house and all that but broke up a few years ago...i did not want to settle down. But it still hurt a lot. Long story short...i casually date or just bang girls and disappear. I like variety. I like seeing the best of people but then rarely seeing them. Quick honeymoon periods. All my friends or fam are married and miserable. No one is a bad person. I just really think people get tired of each other. Could you eat chicken all day everyday? Thats how i see it. Im always on the go and doing different things...why would i want to be with one girl? I cant decide if i am afraid of getting close again or just like the newness feeling or im on the variety is the spice of life blah blah blah.

    At the same time. I look around and want something steady. Want kids. Want to try to be a good man to a woman. Some days i feel like i could be the special one that could make it last with someone and keep it exciting. Other days i think thats just a romantic farce and i need to keep fucking as many girls as possible. I just live and do what i feel in the moment...but its like a grass is always greener on the other side thing. My married friends are envious of me and im envious of their stability and having someone to go home to. Then i think about how everyone married hates their lives. So to all you married people and older and wiser posters. Please give me thoughts and opinions on where im at. Im tired of the two sides clashing...i need to pick a side and go with it the rest of my life...if u dont have a plan u have nowhere to go...

    Wiggy related because he supposedly went on a tear after allison. Which was really just a tear in ralph and young male prostitutes asses.
     
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  2. ChimneySweep

    ChimneySweep Well-Known Member

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    this kind of thread never ends well
     
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  3. FeetToTaste

    FeetToTaste Well-Known Member

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    I should never have had so much sex with so many hot women. That's my only regret in life.
     
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  4. freds

    freds . VIP

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    all that typing and no tag.

    adios, brother! :mrpeanut:
     
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    Bro God Bless Donald Trump VIP Gold

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    let's see if he can figure it out before BethSucks has to save him.
     
  7. Coke Can Baby

    Coke Can Baby Don't be a skunk

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    True story not everybody hates their wife and family
     
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    ItsAWholeThing Well-Known Member Banned User

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    Simple take a year or two to fuck lots of whores and then make a decision
     
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    Apple the cat Moral conscience of the Shed

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    First Ralph, at 28 you're too young to get married, unless you're going bald (@Schmoopy ). If I had it to do over again, I'd have stayed single until at least 35, then settle down and have kidlets. As you're out chasing pussy, get to know them a bit better than you do now, and see if one really clicks with you. If you find her, pursue it further, see if she's "the one". You're still young, so follow this piece of sage wisdom, my son: DON'T SETTLE!!
     
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    elias saved him.

    don't be so nice.
     
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    I think Shivvy would be the best person to help this guy out...
     
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    Pitzarea Well-Known Member

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    Sign up to OkCupid and find a polyamorous chick.
     
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    slowrollralph Active Member

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    Admittedly I dont know what I am doing I usually just randomly comment on other topics. I like the mid 30s comment. But maybe its a culture thing or where I live. But a lot of my circle and friends are married. Since early 20s.
     
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    oski Purveyor of the Obvious Gold

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    a) not all married people are miserable. actually statistically married people on average are happier than non married people.

    b) that being said, no reason to get married before 30 at the earliest.
     
  15. eliasbboy

    eliasbboy Insert Witty Title Here Staff Member

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    You're only 28. People that do get married are doing it later and later it seems. Don't feel pressure.

    Understand one thing and it will help immensely: There IS NO perfect plan.

    You are a complete 100% individual. Your DNA, life experiences, interests, passions, pet peeves, EVERYTHING is unique. What works or has been tried by 99.999% of the population does not have to work for you.

    You know why I got married? It felt right. Teo years before I'd have told you the idea was 10 years off at the earliest.

    When it happens, IF it happens, you won't be doing it to settle. You'll know.

    Keep in mind there are a shit ton on extremely happy people in this world that never got married. Priorities, interests, tastes, these all change over time. Just do the best you can and be the best person you can be. Whatever happens happens.

    I like to think of it this way. You can spend all day Monday from sun up to sun down worrying yourself sick about what might happen on Saturday. Problem is you could die of a heart attack on Tuesday. Don't waste a good day you have fretting over a day you may never see.

    Sorry if it sounds stupid or gloom and doom. I don't meant it that way. Just enjoy your life. Don't compare your place in the world with others. It's always apples to oranges.
     
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    Rescued Owl Well-Known Member

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    You should sell everything and get on a plane to Oslo right away.
    Enroll in the university and spend a few years figuring everything out and enjoying expensive artisanal hot sauces.
    :grad:
     
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    God Well-Known Member

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    Princess Kitty Let's Play

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    Always thinking the grass is always greener NEVER EVER STOPS, no matter what situation you are in.
    Humans are programmed that way from birth. Just hang on for dear life and try not fuck up other people's lives in the meantime....
     
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    They are usually pigs, though.
     
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  20. slowrollralph

    slowrollralph Active Member

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    Good reply elias and thanks for the advice. Good to hear it from random people. I was in traffic coming home from the gym. Just was looking around and seeing a ton of couples. Got kinda bummed there for a sec. Then posted on dawgshed. LOL