Married Men...thoughts on SAHW'S?

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  1. stanggirl

    stanggirl There's no replacement for displacement VIP

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    Okay....so I work and love making my own money. AND. .I always thought that everyone is supposed to work unless they have kids.

    Well. ..at work, my foreman asked me if I was going to stop working after I get married! We're not having kids!

    Then..I work with another guy whose kids are 15 and 19 and his wife doesn't work.

    Also...I go on this wedding forum where apparently it's normal to not work as a wife with no children.

    This boggles my mind! My fiancée and i get up at 4:30 every morning and we both work in the same field...construction.

    It's hard work...as all work is, I'm sure....but if I were the husband and my wife didn't work I'd get pretty resentful quick!

    Plus, the loss of income and a pension in the future.

    Any thoughts?
     
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    Lester Well-Known Member

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    I guess its whatever makes you guys happy. Friend of mine has a stay at home wife. She does nothing. Not even clean, cook or food shop. They have someone that does that. I don't know how she is not bored out of her mind.
     
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    babybear r.i.p 8/3/15, Wherewolf of AZ VIP

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    keep working till you can,or at least 55.
    I may call it quits in 2 months when I turn 62.
     
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    stanggirl There's no replacement for displacement VIP

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    The fiancée and i want to retire early. ..we'll take a hit on our pensions. ..but we will still have TWO pensions
     
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    HorsetoothBeth Well-Known Member

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    Holy fuck, I'd love to be a housewife. House would be spotless (already is), bills would be paid and dinner would be on the table every night.
    I already know I'll die in my office chair. :tears:
     
  6. babybear

    babybear r.i.p 8/3/15, Wherewolf of AZ VIP

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    my brother took his carpenters pension from N.J. plus soc. security,retired and moved to Texas with his younger 2 nd wife who
    makes 6 figures and is living the dream.
     
  7. Lemmy

    Lemmy Douchebag Extraordinaire Gold

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    I think if my broad had kids and wanted to stay at home to care for them while they were young that is fine. Anything else? Fuck that! I gotta go to work and be miserable then so do you. Besides that it would severly limit the abount of money I could spend on car shenanigans. :eek:
     
  8. stanggirl

    stanggirl There's no replacement for displacement VIP

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    Hahaha. ...I know!

    But it would get old, fast. In my industry we see layoffs. I was our of work for 6 months in 2010.

    I had a GREAT summer...but after around month 3 I was starting to get depressed and feeling useless. I picked up other work until my union called
     
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  9. JFK

    JFK Ask not what your country can do for you. Gold

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    My wife stopped working when the kids came. We are really happy with the desicion. Making sure the kids are well mrounded is a full time job.
     
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    stanggirl There's no replacement for displacement VIP

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    Hahaha. ..the fiancée and i have the same car habit!!! Lol

    Wanna spend JUST 1500$$$ on a pulley swap for my stang!
     
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    Lemmy Douchebag Extraordinaire Gold

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    I can retire at 52 with my pension. If I want to max it out I'd have to work until I'm 60. It depends on whether I enjoy what I am doing as I get closer that decides if I stick around.
     
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    stanggirl There's no replacement for displacement VIP

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    Yeah, but I was referencing wives without children
     
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    Alisonsbankacct Out to lunch.

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    Relationships only need to make sense to the two people in them, of course. But for me, I would resent my SO not contributing equally. That doesn't mean working outside the home, but certainly doing something to add to our quality of life or community, etc
     
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    Kids change your life more than you would have ever imagined. For the good.
     
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    stanggirl There's no replacement for displacement VIP

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    I'm with Lemmy, though. ..if I gotta go to work and be miserable so do you! Hahaha

    But I really like my job
     
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    stanggirl There's no replacement for displacement VIP

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    Some of you guys didn't read my original post. I'm talking about marriages WITH OUT kids!!!!

    Pay attention!
     
  17. Lemmy

    Lemmy Douchebag Extraordinaire Gold

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    Heads, roller cam and new ECU and I'm at $5k. Then the suspension is next and I haven't figured that shitfest total out yet. :jj:
     
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    @stanggirl you need to ALWAYS be able to take care of yourself financially so you need to keep working and not have gaps in your employment record.

    Not being foreboding or anything....just practical.
     
  19. Lemmy

    Lemmy Douchebag Extraordinaire Gold

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    Sometimes I love it but other days it is the worst thing ever. Maybe I shoulda gone to college.
     
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    JFK Ask not what your country can do for you. Gold

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    I mean, if you've got to get in some years to get that pension vested. If ya plan it out, you could front load the savings. I frankly wouldn't have cared. But the stuff changes when the kids get their.
     
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