If a recent ex (wife, girlfriend, etc.) moved on in life, which scenario would secretly sting more? A. She has become far more independent and successful than she ever was when you were together or B. She is now insanely happy and in love with someone who absolutely adores her My friend said A because it would show she really doesn't need someone to be happy and can get along just fine without you. I said in most cases it would be B because it would be an ego blow. I know there are many variables that figure into this, so try to consider this using an ex who you did not utterly despise by the end of the relationship .