Mlaw's Public Service Announcement--Divorce

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  1. Mlaw

    Mlaw Quite Contrarian VIP Gold

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    If you are married and considering divorce, or have been separated and are dragging your heals---DO NOT, DO NOT put it off.

    If you think you can't afford it, you may find yourself in a position where looking back, you realize waiting was the costliest mistake of your life.
    Scene:

    Drunk, rotten wife cheats on husband and she moves out. A couple years later she comes to him looking for cash since they own the marital home together. He gives her $20,000, she signs over the deed. They try a 'Do it yourself divorce' and the judge refuses to approve the agreement. A couple years later she files bankruptcy. Still drinking she eventually is hospitalized for liver failure. She quits drinking but the damage is done. Big surprise, she files for SSDI, and gets it.
    12 years after the separation, he not only has to pay her nearly $300 a week in alimony, (for the next 10 years) he has to fork over another $25,000 for the equity in the house.

    If he had paid a lawyer $2500 to draft an acceptable agreement, he wouldn't be refinancing his house to pay her and another $15,000 in attorney's fees

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  2. ChuckZ

    ChuckZ My life is one big lazy day VIP

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  3. Apple the cat

    Apple the cat Moral conscience of the Shed

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    Very interesting- have you tried using something like this as advertising where you practice?
     
  4. Gitfiddle

    Gitfiddle Live Deliciously

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    Orrrrr....

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    Anybody getting a divorce that doesn't hire one is a fool that deserves to be taken to the cleaners.
     
  6. ChuckZ

    ChuckZ My life is one big lazy day VIP

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    Did mediation for most of my divorce, lawyer drew up papers at the end.
     
  7. Napoleon V

    Napoleon V Swagggggg. ! !!!!!!!! !!!!! Banned User

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    OP I'm considering marrying a woman I don't love. I'd like you input.
     
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  8. ChuckZ

    ChuckZ My life is one big lazy day VIP

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    3 input?
     
  9. Mlaw

    Mlaw Quite Contrarian VIP Gold

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    Which I highly recommend, but always seek out the advise of an attorney if the marriage is relatively long term and there are assets at stake.

    And never wait if it is truly over
     
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  10. Mlaw

    Mlaw Quite Contrarian VIP Gold

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    Are you considering it for financial reasons, or because you feel pressured by her?
     
  11. Rum Balls

    Rum Balls Well-Known Member

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    Me? Divorced 12 times, pal

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  12. Napoleon V

    Napoleon V Swagggggg. ! !!!!!!!! !!!!! Banned User

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    I'm not really this is all just hypothetical. I'm sorry for wasting your time.
     
  13. gwartney

    gwartney Is there gas in the car? Gold

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    She's writing off her time on Dawg's as Pro Bono work.
     
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  14. Mlaw

    Mlaw Quite Contrarian VIP Gold

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    It's never a waste of time, I'm always happy to help
     
  15. HaroldJackson

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    What was the house worth, 100k?
     
  16. Mlaw

    Mlaw Quite Contrarian VIP Gold

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    no, you divide equity ---she's getting a portion of the 2003 equity
     
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  17. Mojopin

    Mojopin Resplendent in his frock

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    Don't get married.

    If you must, don't marry a drunk. :grad:

    Mojo's tip of the day.
     
  18. Lemmy

    Lemmy Douchebag Extraordinaire Gold

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    Can you help one-eyed pappy & cookie legally disown their man-child Schmoopy?
     
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    Lol