My cousin has cancer. He's decided not to treat it.

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  1. deverrant

    deverrant VIP Extreme Gold

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    He's actually my second cousin (dad's cousin) and I barely know him, so while it sucks I'm not all broke up about it or anything.

    But it's interesting... He's only in his early 50s so you'd think he'd wanna fight.

    But his dad died of cancer when I was a kid. His sister died after a long battle with it a couple years ago. She was only in her 40s.
    After seeing what they went through, he said he has no desire to prolong the inevitable with painful, sickening, humiliating treatments. He also says he doesn't wanna give "them" any money for something that they know as well as he does is not going to work anyway.
    He pointed out that his sister had a chemo treatment a week before she died. He said the doctors knew she was going to die, but took her money and pumped her full of shit anyway, and he wants no part of that.

    I can kinda see his point and if I were elderly I may be inclined to do the same, especially with that kind of family history.
    But in my early 50s?? I dunno. Is he a realist or a defeatist?

    He's got lymphoma, btw.
     
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    jeez, 50's ain't shit.
     
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    Can we ban Dev, she has been depressing the shit out of the board for a couple weeks now. :nojj:
     
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    pwned
     
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    Lost my dad at 54 :nocheer:
     
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    He has a valid point. Why would he want to die from the treatment instead of dying from the disease? Tough call any way you look at it.
     
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    I KNOW! I can totally see his point if he were in his 80s or something. But jeezus, he's practically mid-life. :dontknow:

    I know. I'm sorry. Everything's just so sucky all the time. :nocheer:
     
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    at 50-something??? too young. Man the fuck up and fight it.
     
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    Chemotherapy treatment for some cancers may actually encourage tumours to grow, researchers have claimed.
    The treatment triggers the healthy body cells around the tumour to produce a protein that helps the disease to resist treatment.
    The surprise discovery suggests that some forms of the cancer treatment are doing more harm than good.


    Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/a...py-encourage-cancer-growth.html#ixzz27LtzRQex
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    This was a recent story from this summer. He has a point.
     
  12. Swayze

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    Is he ok?
     
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    I would do the same. My friend had colon cancer and had chemo and radiation. He was so sick from the treatment that is what ultimately killed him. He told me several times in the last weeks of his life that he knew he was going to die and he wished that they would just tell him to tell the truth and stop treatment so that he could enjoy his remaining days.
     
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    :shucks:

    I don't doubt it one bit.
    The only problem is everybody's in cahoots with everybody, and everybody has some kind of agenda... you don't know what you can believe and what you can't.
    IS there such thing as a truly credible source?
     
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    What kind of cancer and what is his prognosis?
     
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    Lost a friend to lymphoma. He beat it for a couple of years, but it got him. Sorry. :(
     
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    Lymphoma. Other than that and his decision I don't know much more. The information came through my dad who, in typical male fashion NEVER gets all the details.

    I don't know much about it. I know esophageal is a bitch. And pancreatic.
     
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    Well I gotta say that while I don't agree with him you gotta respect his decision. We are all gonna die. Having some say in what manner you die has merit. He's seen others suffer and the suffering may have been worse because the treatment is so brutal. Hopefully he remains at peace with his choice and it goes as well for him as possible. Without treatment he should still be able to get pain meds......unless he doesn't want to give the establishment money for that either.
     
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    I don't know, I didn't talk to him. He seems secure in his decision though, from what my dad says... so hopefully he's at least making peace with it all. :dontknow:
     
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    My uncle has cancer....he's 96