He's actually my second cousin (dad's cousin) and I barely know him, so while it sucks I'm not all broke up about it or anything. But it's interesting... He's only in his early 50s so you'd think he'd wanna fight. But his dad died of cancer when I was a kid. His sister died after a long battle with it a couple years ago. She was only in her 40s. After seeing what they went through, he said he has no desire to prolong the inevitable with painful, sickening, humiliating treatments. He also says he doesn't wanna give "them" any money for something that they know as well as he does is not going to work anyway. He pointed out that his sister had a chemo treatment a week before she died. He said the doctors knew she was going to die, but took her money and pumped her full of shit anyway, and he wants no part of that. I can kinda see his point and if I were elderly I may be inclined to do the same, especially with that kind of family history. But in my early 50s?? I dunno. Is he a realist or a defeatist? He's got lymphoma, btw.