'For years I was too terrified to talk about it': Lena Dunham reveals she was date raped in college By Shyam Dodge for MailOnline Published: 20:04 GMT, 1 October 2014 | Updated: 22:17 GMT, 1 October 2014 Lena Dunham dedicates a chapter in her new book to a traumatic experience she had in college - one which she admits to having been too scared to talk about before. The actress and comedic writer reveals in her memoir Not That Kind Of Girl: A Young Woman Tells You What She's 'Learned' how she was date raped at a party. On Monday, the 28-year-old spoke candidly about her process in writing about the experience in a new interview with NPR's Terry Gross on Fresh Air. 'There were a few things in this book that I was terrified to put into the world,' Dunham admitted. 'The chapter about date rape in the book was a really, really terrifying thing for me to put into the world.' 'It was a painful experience physically and emotionally, and one I spent a long time trying to reconcile,' the HBO star explained. 'At the time that it happened, it wasn't something that I was able to be honest about. 'I was able to share pieces, but I sort of used the lens of humour, which has always been my default mode, to try to talk around it.' She went on to describe what it took after graduating from Oberlin College to come to terms with the trauma: 'I said I spent so much time scared. I spent so much time ashamed, I don't feel that way anymore. 'And it's not because of my job, it's not because of my boyfriend, it's not because of feminism - though all those things helped - it's because I told the story. And I still feel like myself and I feel less alone.' Dunham, who has been dating musician and Fun rocker Jack Antonoff for the past two years, recalled the years of shame and confusion she went through in trying to process the rape. 'I think I had just felt that something was very wrong,' she said. 'I had felt that something had happened and I remember thinking "Can I ever be the same?" 'I was at a party, drunk, waiting for attention -- and somehow that felt like such a shameful starting-off point that I didn't know how to reconcile what had come after. But I knew that it wasn't right and I knew in some way that this experience had been forced on me.' But she did have a good friend to talk with about the experience: 'When I shared it with my best friend and she used the term "you were raped" at the time, I sort of laughed at her and thought like, you know, what an ambulance-chasing drama queen,' Lena said. http://i.***************/i/pix/2014/10/01/1412193537416_wps_28_Girls_Series_01_Episode_0.jpg Onscreen romance: The actress pictured with co-star Adam Driver on a 2012 episode of Girls ' later felt this incredible gratitude for her for giving me that, giving me that gift of that kind of certainty that she had,' she continued. 'I think that a lot of times when I felt at my lowest about it, those words in some way actually lifted me up because I felt that somebody was justifying the pain of my experience.' The remainder of the actress' college life was marked by the trauma: 'I didn't really go to anymore parties. I just stopped going… I basically didn't have a drink for the rest of college… I really removed myself from that world. I don't know if I would've told you at the time, "Oh, I'm doing this to keep myself safe," but obviously in hindsight… I basically removed myself from the social world as I'd known it.'