WTF Please Tell Me the First Year of Marriage is Supposed to be Hard

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  1. stanggirl

    stanggirl There's no replacement for displacement VIP

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    Well shedders...I'm 10 months into my marriage and not feeling so great about it anymore

    My husband is fat ...which is really bothering me lately

    Also..I leant him 12 grand that I really didn't have for his new motor and he's been a little lax on paying me back ...half of that money I put on my credit card, btw...which also upped my monthly budget

    I actually have to remind him for some money the last couple of months and he acts like I'm being a nag

    And to top it off..he was recently talking about all the other stuff he wants to do to his car which costs money and I was like .what about paying me back some of my money first...and he laughed and told me..I was waiting for that

    He doesn't French kiss me...EVER. And foreplay involves him just laying there with his cock out.

    Sometimes..I'll be like....wanna fool around and he'll make excuses..the biggest one being that he just pooped

    So take a shower!

    I'm 42 and don't want kids. I'm kicking myself for pushing for marriage.

    What was I thinking???

    Please send me some positive vibes...that these feelings will pass

    I really have Noone..no friends or family to vent to...and maybe it's because I'm just a majorly unlike able bitch and I'm being unreasonable about my husband??
     
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  2. Snort

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    It'll only get worse.

    Get out now.

    The first few years are supposed to be the easiest.
     
  3. RH Goatcabin

    RH Goatcabin Notable Member VIP

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    The first year was great, number 14 sucked and led to its demise....
     
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    Call me if you want to fuck around behind his back......:artiejj:
     
  5. wigtropolis

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    does his car have a pussy
     
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  6. Zarathustra

    Zarathustra Well-Known Member

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    Did he get fat in the last ten months?
     
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  7. Shivvy

    Shivvy 100k Post Club

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    The first year is the only good year :jj:
     
  8. Sea Slob

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    :lol: That's great. I like this guy
     
  9. RobsDad

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    42?

    First marriage?
     
  10. Sea Slob

    Sea Slob Well-Known Member

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    And unless previous arrangements were made, I believe the 12 grand also belongs to him, since you're married. But he also gets to share in the debt :coffee:
     
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  11. ItsAWholeThing

    ItsAWholeThing Well-Known Member

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    He's sick of fucking you and I doubt he ll pay you back .Youll be divorced in another year
     
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    Girl, I'm gunna lay it down to ya thick, but fair. The average term for voluntary manslaughter is 14 years. With good lawyer you can bargain it down to 10. With good behavior and early parole, you'll be out in 6. Is it worth it for you right now? Probably not--but if the situation doesn't improve in the next few months, I say go for it.
     
  13. Jayla

    Jayla Ou ai-je l'esprit? Gold

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    I just lay there with my junk out too expecting service, so I can't fault the guy.

    But srs, sorry doll. Sounds rough. And also like maybe there are some underlying and very fundamental personality conflicts? That said, I think anyone who says they live in a state of constant connubial bliss is lying. THAT said, I do think most couples with no kids enjoy marriage during the "honeymoon" phase.

    Are you able to communicate your dissatisfaction to him? I don't mean picking and hashing out specific incidents. I mean getting to and conveying the real issue (to me based on limited info you've given) - that you feel taken advantage of and that he doesn't care about your needs.
     
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    DiamondGoddess Born Ready for My Close-Up! Gold

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    You deserve a guy who focuses on your needs, too.
     
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    Sounds like you married a roommate. This is how my X and I were the last year of marriage. She was a "high society" drunk and she was flat our embarrassing to be around when she was drinking, which was then 5 out of 7 nights and she didn't work as I brought home all of the money, paid all of the bills, basically did EVERYTHING. I'd come home at 6 from work and she'd be on her second bottle already. I honestly could not stand being around her at all, so everything you described it how I acted towards her. No affection, no attention, I NEVER wanted to have the sex with her as my attraction to her had dissipated and I basically only wanted the sex after a fight...like a dominance thing as I hated the bitch. I stayed downstairs most nights and I turned down every dinner or event I could just to not be around her (We did A LOT of social events in the fashion scene, restaurant scene, charity scene, etc), as she would be drinking and I've never seen a 40 year old woman act the way she did when she drank, it was just fucking embarrassing to be around and admit that was my wife. She finally mentioned divorce and I was seriously "Hell to the yes! FINALLY" and out in two weeks. It would have been faster if I could pack quicker. Good luck, but him being this way this early does not sound promising.

    Also, this was all in year 6. The first two years were pretty fucking great.
     
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    Honey if your into giving rim jobs I'll fly to you tonight.

    What's the name of the closest hotel to your house?
     
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    If it's as you describe, it doesn't sound great.
    My first year of marriage was nothing but fun and fuckin'.
    An awesome time in my life.
     
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    Jayla Ou ai-je l'esprit? Gold

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    12K for a motor?
     
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    You've been married 10 months and just now finding out he doesn't french kiss?
     
  20. Bobby Axelrod

    Bobby Axelrod Well-Known Member

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    You're husband sounds like a real dick, but it also sounds like you should be thankful for whatever you can get.