I really tried to come up with a way not to make this Tl; dr, but I never shut up when I'm drunk. So if you want the detailed history behind all this, you can read it in the spoiler tag. But the short version is, I have a 10 month long relationship that I found out yesterday morning is going to end in less than a month. It is the girl’s decision, but we have decided to have fun for these last few weeks until she leaves and then we'll consider the relationship to be "on a break". Meanwhile, I have decided to start dating another girl. This is something I had decided to do before I found out the relationship was ending. My original plan was to tell the current girlfriend and say I don't want this relationship to progress to exclusivity and leave it up to her if she was cool with that. But now that we both know the relationship will be over soon I think it is better to keep the stuff with the new girl to myself rather than have a huge blow up. My friends tend to agree, but they're all guys. Does anyone have any thoughts on this? Spoiler: Long version I found out yesterday that I am now in a lame duck relationship. The girl that I have been dating for about 10 months has decided to temporarily move out of the States to be with a sick family member that doesn’t have long to live. This is a situation that I have been somewhat aware of but didn’t realize that her moving would be on the table. But, I understand why she’s doing it. We had a series of long talks yesterday about what this meant for her, and what it meant for us. Her ultimate goal is to move back to the Dallas area, she is highly valued at her job and they have allowed her to take an indefinite leave of absence so she has a job when she gets back. Unfortunately, this is a very open ended situation due to the prognosis. She could be gone 3 months; she could be gone 12 months--no way to predict as you can imagine. For probably the first 7 months of us dating, it was very casual. The last 3 months have trended to more serious with her actually staying at my place 3 or so nights a week. But, I would still say that we were caught in between the "having fun" stage and the "serious" stage. Also, we had not yet had had the talk about being exclusive, although we had really only been seeing each other since mid-July. After all the discussions, we ultimately decided to enjoy the time we have together, and then consider ourselves "on a break" until she gets back. She is taking a few weeks to wrap things up at work and get her affairs in order before she leaves, which looks like will be the week of Thanksgiving. If things line up and we are both available, we’ll see where it leads if and when she gets back. But she knows that there is no way I could just wait it out--so I give her credit for understanding that. We basically decided to not really talk about it further and just live out the next 3+ weeks as normal as possible. But, there is another shoe that dropped. I met a girl in Stillwater over the weekend that at the time I thought was just someone to hang out with, have fun, and enjoy the homecoming weekend with. Obviously the whole weekend took some strange turns, but in the end we had a lot of fun and have stayed in constant contact in the days since. We seem to have a lot in common and I am curious about where things could go with her. I am a season ticket holder at OSU and will be in Stillwater for 3 out of the next 5 weekends. Stillwater to Dallas isn’t that long of a trip, especially since with my job I can fly (or fly others) Southwest for free which cuts the trip down to probably right around 2 hours. With me going there a lot, her coming here some particularly over the holidays, there is reason to think we could see a lot of each other at least into January. So, I think at least a casual relationship with this girl is doable in the short term and it certainly seems she is very interested in trying. All through Sunday and Monday I struggled with what to do about the situation. I woke up yesterday deciding that I had to be honest with the current girlfriend and let her know that, while I would love to keep seeing her, I still want to keep things short of the "exclusive" tag. There’s no way I will be able to restrain myself from seeing this college girl when I go to Stillwater, so I thought being honest was the best approach. But with the situation changing so much yesterday, now I think I should just keep my mouth shut. Obviously, it is very self-serving to do so--I know. But it seems like really it is what would make her the happiest too. So, what is everyone’s opinion on this? Oh, and @zombiebutt this is what you've been waiting for.