My sister in-law has a white trash, unemployed loser for a boyfriend that is thrust into my life this time of year. Holidays, family dinners, etc. Anyway, each time this guy comes over he goes outside to smoke however he leaves the ashtray completely overflowing when he leaves. The wind kicks in, they blow all over the yard, etc. I would never leave a big pile of my empty cups and trash on someone's patio furniture. I'm not a smoker, but that seems rude, right? He should clean up after himself?