Question for the married and longterm relationship posters here.

Discussion in 'The Bar' started by Hateman, Feb 22, 2013.

  1. Hateman

    Hateman Well-Known Member Banned User

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    How do you keep the spark or interest in your partner? I would imagine being bored as fuck from the arguments, routine sex, usual usual. Doesn't seem worth it.
     
  2. Dick Gozinya

    Dick Gozinya Active Member

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    Occasionally find a new orifice to stick strange, fascinating objects into. lulz will ensue.
     
  3. doughhead63

    doughhead63 OD'd on life itself Staff Member

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    Let me ask you...is your life full of awesome stuff, non-stop excitement?
     
  4. doughhead63

    doughhead63 OD'd on life itself Staff Member

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    And, this thread is now over...nothing more to post here.
     
  5. Butcher

    Butcher ?

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    Message boards
     
  6. Hateman

    Hateman Well-Known Member Banned User

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    :hhh:
     
  7. Vyb

    Vyb serial chiller Gold

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  8. Hateman

    Hateman Well-Known Member Banned User

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    Certainly less headaches
     
  9. gwartney

    gwartney Unafilliated Gold

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    You don't. Yes, what sex?, yes. You are correct sir.
     
  10. Hateman

    Hateman Well-Known Member Banned User

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    And straights want to ban gays from marriage? They are doing them a favor
     
  11. gwartney

    gwartney Unafilliated Gold

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    Everyone deserves an equal opportunity to be miserable :grad:
     
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    I'm not sure it's possible. But I assume with the RIGHT person it could be.
    I was with my ex for 14 years; married for 9. Most of those were good years and even up until the end we had a good sex life.
    But those last couple years everything else was a mess. And the monotony really got to us. Well, it got to ME. He thrived on it. He loves routine and simplicity and predictability... I fucking hate it. Maybe if we weren't so different it would have worked. :dontknow:

    So as of now I'm a little doubtful that "happily ever after" even exists. But I'm not certain it doesn't, with the right person.
    I guess I'm agnostic when it comes to love.
     
  13. Reggae Mistress

    Reggae Mistress Old Catcher's Mitt

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  14. Hateman

    Hateman Well-Known Member Banned User

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    I don't think alot of us were meant to be with the same person for the rest of our lives
     
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    Johnnykstaint VIP Extreme Gold

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    If you have to "try" keep a spark, its the wrong person for you. Its just sort of happened for me.
     
  16. Popeye Saavedra

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    Wow this is depressing. :nocheer:
     
  17. Hateman

    Hateman Well-Known Member Banned User

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    More power to you then. Don't fuck it up! :hat:
     
  18. BrulesRules

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    You don't..you just learn to live with the pain. :jj:
     
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