I got a friend who's been married to his wife for over ten years and they have a great sex life from what he tells me but they are on a schedule. He gets a BJ on Mon, and sex on Wed and Sat nights. They do divert sometimes if one of them has something to do, and sometimes do it more than the 3 times if it works out, the days/schedule are not set in stone.He claims that they use to argue and feelings got hurt when one of them would initiate and the other would not want to do it. This arrangement takes this problem off the table. He says that you make appt for doctors and dentists which is important for a healthy life, and sex is an important part of a relationship and you need to make time for that to keep the spark in your marriage. My question is does this seem like a good solution? Does it take the spontaneity and excitement out of sex? Would you like to know ahead of time you were getting laid that night? He says they flirt leading up to it, so it can be as fun as the spontaneity aspect. I kind of agree because I do feel bad when I try and put the moves on my wife and get turned down. Nothing worse than getting rejected by your significant other. What say you Dawgshed?