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    • The Bathhouse:

      Bathhouses (baths) are used for many reasons. While most guys go there for sex, men also go there to relax, to meet other men socially, to exercise, and to explore various aspects of their sexuality. There are also many reasons guys don’t go to the baths. Unfortunately, some of these are based on misperceptions and unfounded fears:

      MYTH: Only HIV-positive guys go to the baths.
      FACT: Both HIV-positive and HIV-negative men go to the baths. Guys who don’t know their HIV status also go to the baths.

      MYTH: That’s where people get HIV or other STIs.
      FACT: People get HIV and STIs all over the place, not just in the baths.

      MYTH: People who go to baths are more “promiscuous”.
      FACT: People who go to baths do not necessarily have more casual sexual partners.

      Entering the space

      You enter an entrance lobby where you pay to get in. You can either rent a room/cubicle or a locker. Some places will have different types of rooms. You can usually rent rooms/lockers for different time periods. Most baths make you sign a receipt before you enter. This signature isn’t for formal identification purposes; it is merely to assist you and staff in case you lose your key or forget your room/locker number. Some places will charge you a one-time membership fee.

      Once you’ve paid, the entrance attendant will buzz you inside through a locked door. He’ll hand you your room/locker key that usually has an elastic band attached to it so you can keep your key around your wrist, arm or ankle. He will also hand you a clean towel. Most venues will hand you a free condom. Some places will have free condoms available - just ask a staff person where they are if you can’t see any. Some baths will offer a free security box for you to store your valuables, like wallets or watches, for safe keeping.

      The environment

      Baths are typically laid out as a maze of corridors, rooms/cubicles, dark public rooms, and public shower and toilet areas. Many baths will also have wet and dry saunas, gym rooms, porn video rooms, whirlpools, other interesting sexual play spaces and non-sexual relaxation lounges. If it’s your first time at this bath, look for a map on the wall to locate your locker or room, or ask a staff person for help. It may take you a while to orient yourself, but this can be part of the fun.

      Room/cubicle walls usually don’t reach the ceiling, so sound travels between rooms, adding to the sexualized atmosphere but also giving you less privacy. Guys use dark public rooms for group sex or sex in front of other people. These spaces can sometimes be very dark so be careful not to walk into a wall!

      Different baths create different atmospheres and sometimes attract specific types of guys. Explore the baths to find ones in which you are comfortable. Many have websites where you can view the premises before you actually go to them.

      The experience

      Once you’ve found your locker or room, relax for a while. Although you’re expected to undress and wear your towel around your waist, you don’t have to. Although many guys walk barefoot, some keep shoes on or bring slippers. Make sure to always have your key on you as it has your room/locker number on it.

      The way someone is positioned inside their room can suggest the type of sex they’re looking for, but this isn’t always true. A guy lying on his stomach might be telling you he wants to get fucked, while a guy lying face up might be looking to get sucked or to fuck.

      If you rent a locker you can cruise in the hallways and public spaces.You can also look into rooms with open doors. Don’t knock on closed doors. Only cruise open or semi-open doors. If you rent a room you can cruise in the same way, but you also have the option of staying in your room and leaving the door open to suggest you’re looking for sex. You can sit or lie on your bed, or stand by the doorway. Baths are mainly about sex. However they’re more than that. They are places to relax, socialize, work out, or just take in the sights. One way to avoid disappointment, depression and frustration if you don’t find sex is to take advantage of these other uses.Unfortunately some of us feel pressured to conform to certain sexual norms. Going to the baths doesn’t mean you must have sex with as many guys as you can in one night, although there’s absolutely nothing wrong with this if it’s what you want. Just be yourself. Don’t try to be someone you’re not.

      Bath hygiene

      Follow these guidelines if you’re going to have sex in the baths. Many of these tips are good for other sex situations.
      • Shower with soap between each sexual partner (this includes blow jobs).
      • Check yourself regularly for sores, rashes or pimples.
      • Cover any sores or cuts, especially the soles of your feet if you choose to walk barefoot.
      • Wash hands regularly with warm water and soap. Avoid over-using alcohol-based hand sanitizers as they dry your skin, increasing risk for cracked skin.
      • Avoid sharing towels. Make sure your towel is between yourself and the bench inside sauna/steam rooms.
      • Avoid brushing or flossing your teeth at least ½ hour before sex.
      • Keep your hands away from your nose, mouth, ears, eyes and hair.
      • Cover your coughs and sneezes.
      • Avoid body shaving before having intimate physical/sexual contact with others.
      • Avoid intimate physical/sexual contact with others if you have an open sore, infected cut, boil, cough or cold.

      Bathhouses are legal spaces since they’re licensed by the City. Every space within a bathhouse, except the space licensed for alcohol, is considered private space.


    • The Sex Party / Orgy

      Most of us find out about sex parties or orgies by speaking to someone who has already been to one. You might be personally invited or added to an email list. Some online sex sites have sections devoted to helping organize sex parties. Parties can be located in someone’s house or apartment, hotel rooms or a bathhouse. Events that take place in a private residence might include dinner and conversation to start the evening. There might be introductions, ice breakers to get people comfortable, and a discussion of ground rules. Depending on the size of the event, there might be multiple rooms, each differently themed. There may also be non-sexual areas if you want to take a break.

      Some events are ‘safer sex only’ parties. Others may leave it up to you to decide. There are bareback parties where guys engage in unprotected anal (raw) sex. Check in advance to know what type of party you’re going to. If you arrive at a bareback party but weren’t expecting it to be one, don’t feel pressured to participate. If you’re going to a bareback party, check out www.actoronto.org/bareback for more information.

      Some of us like to have one-on-one sex, some of us like to have group sex, and some of us like to have sex in front of other people. Sex parties can be a lot of fun but can also present particular risks. It can be difficult to keep track of what is going on when there’s a group of guys having sex around you. If you’re a top, make sure to change the condom with each different person that you fuck. If you’re the bottom, check to see that the other guy put on a new condom before he fucks you to make sure he’s not wearing a condom that he used to fuck someone else with. Periodically check, with your hand, to make sure that guys are using condoms.

      If you’re having oral sex (sucking cock) with a lot of guys, avoid deep throating as this increases your risk of getting certain STIs – like gonorrhea and chlamydia.
     
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    No offense. But this seems like common sense. Not sure it's going to help me.
     
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    • The Public Washroom

      Public washrooms can provide a quick and convenient opportunity for casual sex, but can also present greater risks for your personal safety, considering they’re in busy public buildings with non-cruising men also using the space. Although some guys actually have sex in washrooms, others use washrooms to pick up guys and have sex in more private areas.

      Here are some tips if you cruise in washrooms:
      • Investigate the washroom in advance to see if it looks safe.
      • Watch out for security cameras inside or outside the entrance area.
      • Washroom layout is important. Those that allow advance notice of someone walking in (like a long entrance corridor or a noisy entrance door) helps in avoiding being literally caught with your pants down - or worse!
      • Avoid engaging in sex if people who are obviously not looking for sex enter the space.
      • Wait for a sign that the other guy is also cruising - a smile, crotch grabbing or rubbing, or if he’s in the next washroom stall, foot tapping, gesturing or being silent for a long period of time.
      • These are silent spaces, so talking might scare men off.

      Public Sex Safety

      Engaging in sexual activity in a public space is against the law. However cruising and picking up guys in public is not. Kissing another guy in public spaces is also not a crime.

      You can be charged if you’re caught exposing yourself or having sex in a public space. If you’re exposing yourself or having sex in a toilet cubicle with the door closed, you shouldn’t be charged but this really depends on the police officer’s personal biases and values. However, you can be charged if your stall door is open. You might also be charged if you give an incorrect name or address, or if you refuse to give this information when asked. For more information about public sex, the law, and your rights, visit www.handydandy.caand click on the “Cruising” brochure link.

      Inviting Guys Home

      You might meet a guy (or guys) at a bar, on the internet or phone line, or at a social event to bring back to your place for sex. Just remember you don’t really know this person. If you’re out with friends, introduce him to them before you go. Don’t leave anything valuable – wallets, keys, money or jewellery – lying around in your home.

      Make sure you’re prepared for sex. If you want anal sex, make sure condoms and lube are nearby. Remember, sex in your own bed doesn’t eliminate the possibility of HIV transmission.

      Cruising 101: Some Tips
      • You can tell a lot from someone’s stare or eye gazing. Look for gentle body contact when you walk past someone. When you walk past someone and if you’re interested, look back after a couple of seconds. If he looks back at you, he might be interested too!
      • Don’t be overly aggressive. When someone tells you they’re not interested, just let it go. Don’t be pushy.
      • Spend some time observing how others cruise in the space. This is the best way to learn.
      • Know what you want and know your limits. Be clear in your mind of what you do and don’t want. Don’t feel pressured to do anything. You can stop sex at any time if you’re not feeling comfortable.
      • Trust your instincts. If someone’s looking a little strange or out of place, it might be best to avoid them.
      • Spend some time relaxing, and clear your mind. It’s important to be in the right frame of mind when cruising. If you’re feeling depressed or angry, it might not be a good idea to cruise – you may take risks you wouldn’t ordinarily take.
      • Have fun – sex shouldn’t be too serious. For some guys, sex becomes so important that it becomes almost a chore. It can also create stress if you feel you’ve got to have it, or you have to perform for your partner.
      • Don’t have unrealistic expectations. You might not always find sex when you want it. It’s okay if you don’t have sex when you cruise. If you get frustrated and depressed about not finding sex, you might be more willing to do things you wouldn’t normally do. Similarly, don’t have unrealistic expectations about meeting new friends through casual sex since many guys are looking for sex and nothing more.
      • Practice safer sex. Protect yourself and others. Don’t let the adrenaline rush make you do something you wouldn’t normally do and then regret afterwards.

      If you’re cruising in a public place such as a park or washroom, consider these additional tips:
      • Know your rights.
      • Be discrete. You’re simply putting yourself at risk of getting caught if you have full-out sex in busy public venues.
      • Do your best to blend in to avoid unwanted attention – that includes the way you dress (sorry, no disco pants).
      • If you’re in a public space, have an escape plan or route in advance. Know your surroundings well by checking out in advance the area around the location.
      • Don’t leave a mess; don’t leave litter (condoms, used tissue) or cum shots on the wall/floor as this will only generate complaints. Complaints will generate police/security presence, putting your personal safety at greater risk. Remember, police are obliged to react to complaints.
     
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    • Are You a Trans Guy?


      It’s probably not easy cruising for sex as a trans guy. Some of us experience discrimination. Since most people’s perception of gender follows physical appearance, transgenderism and even transsexualism might be difficult to understand by those who are not trans themselves.

      The bathhouses are not always the most welcoming places. We might find it hard to get in if we appear more feminine. Inside the baths, some guys might feel uneasy about us. This is simply their lack of understanding or experience. Don’t get too discouraged, but equally, be cautious of someone that’s not so friendly. If you’re being harassed, seek support from venue staff.

      You might want to bring dental dams or other latex barriers to bathhouses as they typically only have “male” condoms available. You could split a male condom length-ways, but this might be impractical without scissors or a knife. “Female” condoms and dental dams are available at sex stores. Check local HIV/AIDS organizations as they might have some for free. Visit ACT; we have “female” condoms available upon request.

      Many people have other misconceptions about trans people. A lot of guys assume we only engage in certain sexual acts, that we should be sexually submissive or that we only bottom. Don’t feel pressured to perform sex that you don’t really want.

      Are You a Man of Colour?


      Although ethno-cultural/ethno-racial background doesn’t make up our complete identity, skin colour can affect our cruising experience in a society that places particular emphasis on whiteness. We may have satisfying cruising experiences, or we may occasionally feel somewhat rejected or excluded based on our skin colour. We may be confronted with inaccurate sexual stereotypes, comments or attitudes from other men. We may also hold these beliefs ourselves.

      These situations are sometimes quite obvious, but they can sometimes be so subtle we might not even be aware they’re happening. However, it’s important to think about how our experiences of exclusion or rejection might lead to situations where we place ourselves, or others, at risk. We might feel obliged to have certain types of sex we wouldn’t normally engage in, or to take sexual risks we might regret later on.

      Challenge other people about their inaccurate attitudes or inappropriate behaviours towards you. If you’re in a bathhouse or bar, don’t ever be afraid to ask staff and management for assistance if you face prejudice and discrimination of any type. Don’t ever allow anyone to put you down because of your skin colour or ethnic background.
     
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    If you're a trans guy, read on...
     
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    Thought they shut the bath houses down back in the late 70's early 80's when the aids ran wild amoungst the feeg's.....................
     
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    Remember, don't leave cum shots on the wall/floor!
     
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    Remember, the towel boys are there to do their job. In you sense mutual attraction, discretely ask him if he'd like to meet after work. You can ask with a light caress of his genitals. If he reciprocates, plan a place to meet. Be prepared with condoms and lube. Ready yourself to fuck the holy shit out of the twink.
     
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