Stern Show Seriously considering divorce

Discussion in 'The Howard Stern Show' started by fredrogers, Aug 30, 2016.

  1. fredrogers

    fredrogers Well-Known Member

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    So I've been married almost 17 years and it's just not there anymore. We were separated twice about 14-15 years ago and I'm still kicking myself for going back with her after the second time. There's just nothing left in my heart for her anymore and the only time I want to be near her is if I'm drunk and there's the possibility of busting a nut on her tits.
    We are basically roommates that have sex once or twice a month. Constant fighting about absolutely anything and everything. She makes a good deal more than me and makes it known quite regularly.
    Major problem: We have an almost 12 year old son with a pretty severe case of add who will be starting in an out-of-district school in about a week.
    I'm just so incredibly unhappy and even though I know I will be fucked financially, I really want out. I brought this up at his therapy appointment this past weekend (he wasn't there, it was just for us to talk to his therapist) and the therapist didn't know what to say other than we should try marriage counseling. I said I didn't want to. That just turned into me being a selfish asshole.
    So what does everyone think?
     
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    bluedevil30 Well-Known Member

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    Go for the happiness, since she is an earner you wont get screwed.

    If you keep it civil you can avoid huge legal $$$ and keep a good parenting relationship.
     
  3. Biff DiBiase

    Biff DiBiase Philanthropist and accountant at Larry, Inc. POTY Stern Forum Gold

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    You need to leave. Don't stay together for the kid or it will just fuck him up in the long run.
     
  4. Summer

    Summer Shed Punisher VIP

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    Are you involved with anyone else?
     
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    smellynugget Well-Known Member

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    Get out. Take care of your son, but life is too short to be miserable. Not fair to any of the three of you.
     
  6. stanggirl

    stanggirl There's no replacement for displacement

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    I think if you're that miserable you need to cut your losses. Life is too short...and you've been living like this for a decade and a half?

    AND she de-emasculates you by bringing up what she makes?

    Your son will manage just fine

    BUT...If you think you can turn your feelings around and fall in love with her again...then you'd need to work on that

    Good luck
     
  7. shitbird14

    shitbird14 Active Member

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    how are her tits?
     
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    You won't be fucked financially if she makes a lot more than you. You could go after child support and alimony if you want.
     
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    I'm going through a difficult time too. I got a mosquito bite tonight.
     
  11. stanggirl

    stanggirl There's no replacement for displacement

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    And he SHOULD!
     
  12. fredrogers

    fredrogers Well-Known Member

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    They're pretty good.
     
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    ItsAWholeThing Well-Known Member

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    run and run fast ,life is short
     
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    fredrogers Well-Known Member

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    She would want custody, but I have thought about going after alimony.
     
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    Jayla Ou ai-je l'esprit? Gold

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    Sorry. Difficult to offer opinion on this because everyone's situation is unique. I know one couple who were really on the outs and saved it through a LOT of work; I know another who seemed to give up without much of a fight or much consideration, which was brutal on the kids; and yet others (much more common) who just deal with the unhappiness. The latter doesn't seem sustainable long term though.

    You left out how your wife feels. Does she want to make things work? Wants out too? If she's unhappy too perhaps an amicable split would be possible? That seems like the most important thing to consider since how you and your wife are able to get along and work together for your son is what will affect him the most - married or not. Best wishes.
     
  16. Biff DiBiase

    Biff DiBiase Philanthropist and accountant at Larry, Inc. POTY Stern Forum Gold

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    If you do get a divorce, do you mind if Larry, Inc. borrows her as a ring-rat?
     
  17. Pelicanman

    Pelicanman Engorged Member VIP Gold

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    You made the right choice. I come to the Dawgshed for advice on all my significant life changes.
     
  18. shitbird14

    shitbird14 Active Member

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    She lets you cum on her pretty good tits after 17 years... you're probably getting laid more than half the shed
     
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    Am I the only one who got confused about gender in the last paragraph?
     
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  20. fredrogers

    fredrogers Well-Known Member

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    She doesn't want to split up. But good for her, I do. And if one person doesn't have it in them anymore, why would she want to keep me here like a prisoner?