Shit hit the fan today (srs)

Discussion in 'The Bar' started by Satori Brah, Jul 29, 2014.

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Poll closed Aug 5, 2014.
  1. Stay with her and she'll get over it

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  2. Cut it clean now b/c it won't change

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  1. Satori Brah

    Satori Brah Well-Known Member

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    This has been building for months now with my current GF. We both want to get married.

    -but-

    She wants kids and I don't. Other than that....things are pretty great.

    She didn't give me any kind of ultimatum but I have a feeling that if we got married, she would not
    be happy in the long term. I would cut her loose but we are :wub: It would not be easy to walk away.

    :down:
     
  2. Mark Mayonnaise

    Mark Mayonnaise You look like a tree! VIP

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    How old are you both, if you don't mind my asking?
     
  3. Satori Brah

    Satori Brah Well-Known Member

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    me: late 40s
    her: early 30s
     
  4. Mark Mayonnaise

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    She might change her mind. Then again, you might as well.

    A couple years ago I was totally convinced I wanted a kid or two. Now I've done a, well, not quite 180, but I certainly don't feel that way anymore.
     
  5. BrulesRules

    BrulesRules Just grab 'em in the biscuits Gold

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    I'm in the exact opposite boat, I want at least one kid and she doesn't...we can trade.
     
  6. DrivenByDemons

    DrivenByDemons Spinoff Jesus Staff Member

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    The born ultimatum.
     
  7. FtM

    FtM Starless & Bible Black Gold

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    You really need to sit down with her and discuss the future. It's more complicated than a pole.
     
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    RH Goatcabin Notable Member VIP

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    Once she starts ringing the alarm on the biological clock you must either run a kid through her or send her packing...
     
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  9. Satori Brah

    Satori Brah Well-Known Member

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    Good point but I feel like we need to come to an understanding before I put a ring
    on her finger. I need to know how big a deal this is going to be,
     
  10. DrivenByDemons

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    Buy her a cat
     
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  11. Satori Brah

    Satori Brah Well-Known Member

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    really? :eek: thanks!

    we did sit down and discuss it and there seems to be a sticking point that wasn't resolved.
     
  12. Satori Brah

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    I'm 'lergic :p
     
  13. Satori Brah

    Satori Brah Well-Known Member

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    brules votes but never comments on my pole :mad:
     
  14. BrulesRules

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    you build up an immunity the longer you live with them.
     
  15. BrulesRules

    BrulesRules Just grab 'em in the biscuits Gold

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    :wtf:
     
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    Oderus Going to hell VIP

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    :jj:
     
  17. Satori Brah

    Satori Brah Well-Known Member

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    trust me.....I'm not just going to do whatever the pole decides. Sometimes you shut ins actually have
    some good ideas :dontknow: maybe someone was in a similar situation.
     
  18. Mark Mayonnaise

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    [​IMG]
     
  19. Mark Mayonnaise

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    Arguably, if you're sitting around waiting for HER to change, maybe she's not right for you.
     
  20. fletchman71

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    Did you have any names picked out?
    Carl Jr. for a boy and Wendy for a girl?
     
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