So last night Mrs. Lemmy says......

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  1. Lemmy

    Lemmy Douchebag Extraordinaire Gold

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    ......"I'm not sure that I want to be married anymore" and that she has been kinda sad and prefers being alone lately. WTF......how exactly am I supposed to respond to that?!?! I ask on a semi regular basis if she is happy, if I'm working too much, how her day has been, etc. and until yesterday she claimed all was well. I'm attentive, make an effort and still somehow end up in this shitfest. Ugh.

    On the bright side our anniversary is later this month and I haven't bought her gift yet! :facepalm:
     
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    Sorry. That was uncalled for. One thing I've learned about marriage is, men can't win.
     
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    Ya' got that right! :nojj:
     
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    Been there done that. I went through hell for a long time but in the end I believe I was better off. Put up some good numbers in between marriages too.
     
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    This is my 2nd and last. I hope we can get through this but if not I'm done.

    Honestly if she is not happy then I have no ill will if she moves on. She makes more $$$$$ than me and we have no kids so I'm not too concerned with the "proceedings". Dealing with the farm/horses/dogs and our current debt nightmare is a big concern however.
     
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    Mrs Lemmy sounds like a party pooper :(

    Do you guys fight alot?, how many years have you two been together?
    Maybe she's riding the cotton pony this week, wait till thursday and you both should sex it up in no time :cheer:
     
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    Damn that sucks Lemmy. Maybe its time to do some detective work to find out what's really going on.
     
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    It's your get-out-of-jail-free card, man! RUN!
     
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    Sorry to hear buddy. I would ask for some clarification. Ask if she meant what she said, how long she felt this way... typical follow up questions. She may have been harboring this for a long time; she may have been in a bad mood, or just be in a general life-funk.

    How far are you willing to go to work this out? Will you do the whole counseling thing, or just cut-and-run?
     
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    Together 18-ish and married for 12. To say we never fight is 100% accurate. A temporary shunning followed by a civil discussion has even been rare. I thought we got along great. Really never saw this coming.

    She didn't even have anything bad to say about me when she kicked me on the junk last night. Maybe she complains about me to everyone else though. :nocheer:
     
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    I figured this would come from you or Elias. :cheer:
     
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    Sorry. :eek: Guess maybe I've got my own issues going on. A little.
     
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    Geo is furiously masturbating to the thought of your divorce right now through her massive rotator cuff cast arm sling.
     
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    That's quasi-hot. [​IMG]
     
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    :jj:
     
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    How old is she? Something's up. Find out if she's just depressed or has her eye on another dude.

    Whatever the reason, if she doesn't want to turn it around soon, cut it clean and move on.
    You don't have kids so that's good at least :dontknow:
     
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    My bet was that you never fight.

    I'm going to say that the reason you didn't see this coming is because a lot of whatever she has been harboring has been swept under the rug and never addressed. When you pull up the rug there is going to be an incredible pile of garbage, unfortunately.
     
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    She's probably been unhappy for a long time but putting up a great front so no one knew what was really going on in her mind. Then when this happens it's a shock to all
     
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    That's what happened to me. Never had a clue there was something wrong then bOOM! She unleashed it all on me at once.