The women who fell in love with her Sperm Donor

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    The women who fell in love with her Sperm Donor


    The tale of a woman who tracked down and fell in love with the 'anonymous' sperm donor who gave her a healthy baby girl could be made into a Hollywood movie have now announced their engagement.

    Newspaper, magazine and TV offers have come flooding in from all over the globe after Victorian couple Aminah Hart and Scott Andersen told their incredible story on the ABC on Monday night.

    The couple's incredible romance has got more serious since Scott proposed while they were on holiday in Thailand with their daughter.

    They told ABC they managed to keep the good news secret until they got back to Australia yesterday so they could share it with friends and family first.

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    Ms Hart explained the couple had spoken about getting married in five years time but had no idea her partner was going to propose.

    'Scott returned from the shops with some milk for Leila. He reached out to hold my hand and in his very laconic, unfussy way, asked me to marry him.

    'And then he produced a ring from a shop in the village. I loved it because it was so Scott.

    'Maybe we're rushing it. Who knows? We've both got a track record of marriages that have ended,' reports ABC.

    The couple say they are a 'modern family' and plan to marry next year.

    Another jaw-dropping twist in the couple's story came from the Working Title Films company - creators of blockbuster movies Love Actually and Bridget Jones' Diary - who expressed an interest in accessing the film rights to their fairy tale romance that you would expect to only see in a blockbuster movie.

    Ms Hart's reaction said it all when she heard the news while on holiday with her family in Thailand: 'Bloody hell, this is insane!' the ABC reported.

    Ms Hart, who lost two sons to a rare genetic disorder before giving birth to Leila, is extremely touched how their story had struck a chord with viewers.

    'Somehow it's beautiful to me that so many people know of my boys now,' she said about the psotive response after their journey was broadcast on the Australian Story program.

    Ms Hart, who lost two sons to a rare genetic disorder before giving birth to Leila, said she has also been overwhelmed by positive responses from viewers.

    'Somehow it's beautiful to me that so many people know of my boys now,' she said.

    Ms Hart said they will look at their options when they return to Australia next week.

    At the age of 42 newly single Aminah Hart made a decision that changed her life in a way that she never could have imagined, leading her to meet and fall in love with the stranger whose sperm she used to conceive her daughter.

    At the time, the Melbourne professional wanted to have a child but had already suffered the tragic loss of two sons due to a genetic disorder called x-linked myotubular myopathy, a condition that affects muscles used for movement and occurs almost exclusively in boys.

    Her first son Marlon, conceived with her former husband, died at the age of four months, while she was living in England, and in 2010 when Aminah was living back in Australia, Louis - fathered by a former partner - died at the age of 14 months.

    'You can't really put it into words. I had two relationships and two children but it wasn't until the second one that I got a diagnosis of the genetic disorder,' Aminah told Daily Mail Australia.

    She had always anticipated she would have children but she said it wasn't until her early 30s that she began to seriously think about it.

    At 42, Aminah felt like time was running out but she was also faced with the prospect that the genetic disorder has a 1 in 4 chance of occurring in every pregnancy.

    She thought long and hard about her options and decided to use a sperm donor to conceive.

    'It took me a long time to make the decision and I considered everything: my age, social status and that I carried a fatal genetic disorder… I had the understanding that I wasn't a great prospect.'

    Aminah decided to 'give it one last go'.

    She was given three pieces of paper by the fertility clinic with the vital statistics of three anonymous men – one of whom would become not only the biological father of her daughter but her future partner.

    When deciding which sperm donor to choose she looked for a man that had the key qualities she wanted in her child.

    'You don't get a photo, it's literally just a profile - less than a LinkedIn page, with vital statistics, age, body build, hair colour, interests as a kid , and job,' Aminah explained.

    The donor that stood out from the three was a man who described himself as 'happy and easy going' with a strong work ethic.

    'He also had a really clean genetic background and there wasn't anything lurking in his family in terms of disability… I also looked at mental health because my own resilience had been what got me through the trauma I experienced and I wanted a child as equally resilient,' Aminah said.

    Scott Andersen's sperm had been in 'quarantine' since 2010 when Aminah chose it in 2011, so the sperm bank had time to rule out diseases.

    Her chosen donor also already had four happy healthy children, which reassured Aminah.
    She had grown up without knowing her own father, having last seen him when she was just 11 months old, so she was keen for her future child to meet their father.

    'Scott said on his profile that he was happy to meet any child that was conceived,' Aminah added.

    When baby Leila was born on August 14, 2012, weighing a 'big and healthy' 3.9 kilos, Aminah said she felt 'relieved'.

    'Honestly when she came out I felt nothing else just relieved and overwhelmed that I had a child in my arms… the pregnancy had been horrific as I'd been unable to relax,' she added.

    Leila was back in hospital in a critical condition just three weeks later suffering a problem with her airways but doctors saved her life with emergency surgery and Aminah was once again able to enjoy her happy, healthy little girl.

    Meanwhile, Aminah's mother Helen had grown increasingly interested in who Leila's father might be as her blonde hair and blue eyes were in contrast to Aminah's West Indian appearance.

    'Six months later my mum had been snooping around Google. She knew that Scott had said he was a cattle breeder and was an amateur footy coach,' Aminah said.

    Despite thinking it wasn't a good idea at first, when her mum became convinced she'd found Leila's father Aminah decided to contact the agency and offer her details in case he wanted to get in touch or see a photo of his daughter.

    'Mum had dug out a photo from his football club and I said 'I really don't know', but she could see a similarity in a six month old baby. They do both have blonde hair and blue eyes… she is cute as a button.'

    Scott responded and the pair began exchanging emails, Aminah sent photos of Leila and by the time their daughter was one year old they had decided it was time to meet in person.

    'He asked me in the early days 'when do you want to meet up?',' Aminah said.

    On August 18, 2013, Aminah and Leila drove an hour and a half from Melbourne to Scott's house near Phillip Island, about 140 km south-southeast of Melbourne, where they met not only him but two of his children.

    'It was much easier than I'd anticipated. I was nervous … I was walking in to meet a complete stranger and I had his genetic child in my arms,' Aminah laughed.

    There was an instant rapport between the pair, with Aminah finding Scott 'easygoing' and 'a bit of a talker'.

    Their children played together and Aminah could see how Scott kept looking at Leila.

    'He was a little bit nervous as well but she looked a lot like him,' Aminah said.

    The pair chatted but at that point Aminah was not looking at Scott as a potential partner.

    'My head wasn't even in that space, I was sort of seeing someone at that time… it was all about Leila so the main thing for me was hoping we could create a good rapport.'

    The meeting went so well that Aminah and Leila began seeing Scott every few weeks. Leila had just started to walk and when she toddled up to Scott and sat with him, Aminah thought it was a 'lovely thing'.

    'After that he emailed me and said he would like to see her quite regularly and we agreed fortnightly visits… then he said 'would it be OK if we did it more regularly' and we started meeting weekly.'

    After that things changed, Aminah began looking at Scott in a different light.


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    'I thought 'oh he's actually quite gorgeous'. I was confused about it and I remember saying to a girlfriend 'I think I've got a bit of a crush on Leila's dad',' Aminah recalled.

    Anxious not to 'stuff things up' or jeopardise the great relationship they had built up, Aminah said nothing.

    'Then he said to me 'would it be really greedy if I asked for two visits a week',' she laughed.

    It was coming up to Christmas and Scott's son had noticed a spark between his dad and Aminah... the pair ended up sharing their feelings.

    'We were like 'OK what happens now'.'

    One day a road accident caused the pair to be stuck in a jam on the way to Phillip Island. Instead of sitting in traffic they went to a local pub. What they thought would be a short wait turned into a seven hour road closure and a friend of Scott's recommended they should stay the night at his house nearby.

    'We had a few drinks and they put a mattress on the floor for us - one mattress between two people… but it was not awkward, I actually found him really protective of the baby and me and there was this sense that we were there as a family.

    'It was quite surreal that it was not uncomfortable. There was a little bit of romance born that night,' Aminah remembered.

    The pair discussed their fears about what could go wrong but Aminah reassured Scott that whatever happened she would never take Leila away from him, despite him having no legal rights as a sperm donor.

    That Christmas, the three spent it together as a family. 'We fell in love. It was surreal but an incredible experience.'

    Ten months have passed and Aminah, who describes herself as a 'city girl at heart', still can't believe she is in love with a cattle farmer.

    'I am down at the farm a few days a week and he comes up to Melbourne when he's not pulling calves out of their mother,' she joked.

    Aminah sees their relationship as a 'beginning rather than a happy ending' and calls it a 'really beautiful chapter' in her life full of 'happiness and joy'.

    'My boys are still very much my boys, they made me who I am today and have made me a better person… they are very much my life and until I end that story doesn't end.'
     
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    I hear that happens all the time with the chicks who star in those bukkakie films.... 28 guys shoot loads on her face in a basement and next thing you know shes fallen in love with them...
     
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    So her kids will have a 1-4 chance of dying from some genetic disorder and she's ok with that?
     
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    Do they know whether or not the new child has it or is it just wait and see?
     
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