Toxic People

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  1. joyceface

    joyceface Queen of Everything VIP

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    So what do you do with toxic people in your life? I mean friends/family that just create havoic, chaos, negative, nasty that type of thing. Do you keep having dinner with them? Jettison them out of your life forever? Make excuses not to see them? Keep up the charade and smile?

    I think I just cut someone loose forever. No more birthday dinners, no more holidays. Just fucking done.
     
  2. Bye You!

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    Good for you! You'll be so much happier.
     
  3. Mr Vengeance

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    Generally, shitting in their chili works.....
     
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  4. smichal

    smichal A1 Dick Game

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    ya I have cut off people for being dicks.
    it is not worth it to make an effort "for old times sake" if the person is not kind to you.
     
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    That's exactly what I said. He's just a dick.
     
  6. joyceface

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    You've tried this??
     
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  7. idiotbox

    idiotbox Looking for a dime and found a quarter. VIP

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    i've severed ties with anyone toxic in my life, whether they are family or friends. i'm too old to deal with the bullshit that those vampires sap from me.
     
  8. Mr Fantastic

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    I've cut contact with most people in general, toxic or not. Has worked like a charm.
     
  9. LaserT

    LaserT You have to have fun.

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    If you're happier Joyce, that's what counts. Why get dragged down. :)
     
  10. joyceface

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    I think I've been trained to be polite and smile and nod for the sake of the family or the holiday or whatever. So what, just not show up? Say why not showing up? Excuses will probably work.
     
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    Alisonsbankacct Out to lunch.

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    What do you do if you see them in social circles or family events (weddings / graduations etc)? Asking for a friend... ;)
     
  12. Mlaw

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    you do exactly that--Kick them to the curb---If they have kids, you do your best to keep a relationship with them if it's possible, they will need a soft place to fall
     
  13. idiotbox

    idiotbox Looking for a dime and found a quarter. VIP

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    i don't see them and that's by design.

    honestly, i have one toxic person that's still in my life but i choose to keep them there, i kinda have to.
     
  14. NyMarkNy

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    Cut them out of your life after you feel you've made every attempt to repair the relationship, but not 1 second longer than that.
     
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    Me to but not intentionally. At my age most of them have died off.
     
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    Tell the truth--"I'm tired of the drama, anger, chaos and negativity, life is too short to spend one minute more around it"
     
  17. Jayla

    Jayla Ou ai-je l'esprit? Gold

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    If I can't cut them out of my life 100% for whatever reason, I'm polite and try to keep my interaction with them to an absolute minimum. And no guilt. I'm over that at this point in my life.
     
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    Mlaw Quite Contrarian VIP Gold

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    say "hello, I hope you're well" and move on to those you enjoy
     
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    I haven't spoken to my mother in law for over a decade. My husband's family understand why, and I think they wish they could do the same. I'm the only one who can just tell someone to fuck off and mean it.

    I have never kept my children from seeing her, so they do sparingly at Christmas once in a while. They know what an evil toxic "person" she is.
     
  20. Jayla

    Jayla Ou ai-je l'esprit? Gold

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    I did that for years. Not showing up was not an option, so I developed a thicker skin and really, just stopped giving a care what they thought. Surprise surprise, the main offenders rarely say anything rude to me anymore.