What do you consider the worst betrayal in a marriage/relationship?

Discussion in 'The Bar' started by Mlaw, Aug 20, 2015.

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What is the worst possible betrayal in a marriage/relationship?

Poll closed Aug 25, 2015.
  1. sexual affiar

    16 vote(s)
    42.1%
  2. emotiional affair

    4 vote(s)
    10.5%
  3. hides financial indiscretions

    2 vote(s)
    5.3%
  4. stops taking care of their physical appearance/health

    1 vote(s)
    2.6%
  5. drug/alcohol/gambling addiction

    0 vote(s)
    0.0%
  6. hides issues about the kids

    0 vote(s)
    0.0%
  7. snoops in your phone/emails/files/social media

    0 vote(s)
    0.0%
  8. physical/emotional abuse

    11 vote(s)
    28.9%
  9. stops being intimate

    4 vote(s)
    10.5%
  10. stops communicating/spending time with you

    0 vote(s)
    0.0%
  1. Mlaw

    Mlaw Quite Contrarian Gold

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    So, in my practice I see all kinds of betrayals in marriages, I'm always fascinated at how people view their misdeeds --So what, in your opinion is the worst betrayal your partner can engage in?

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  2. Gitfiddle

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    Spousal murder.
     
  3. Mlaw

    Mlaw Quite Contrarian Gold

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    that would be physical abuse
     
  4. Stew Nod

    Stew Nod Well-Known Member Banned User

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    You left out financial infidelity :grad:
     
  5. gwartney

    gwartney Is there gas in the car? Gold

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    Is there such a thing as an emotional affair without physical?
     
  6. Ridic

    Ridic Too ridic to quit Banned User

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    Appearance.

    Cheat on me, steal my money and lie to me you want as long as people are still jealous of me when they see how hot of a woman I have.
     
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  7. Mlaw

    Mlaw Quite Contrarian Gold

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    I did not
     
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  8. Mlaw

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    yes, that is why they are two separate choices
     
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    Not swallowing.
     
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    Not cooking
     
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    Sexual affair. More than likely, with that comes a few of the others listed.
     
  12. Babs

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    Often there are several.
     
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    Foot massage
     
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  14. XuXu

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    I watched my mother have a gun pulled on her when she threatened to leave my stepfather. Then she had a live in coke head younger BF who choked her with a phone cord and knocked her tooth out. Fuck that. I might have made some better choices given another chance, but I never, ever let anyone put their hands on me.
     
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    Don't be tellin' me about foot massages. I'm the foot fuckin' master. I got my technique down and everything, I don't be ticklin' or nothin'.
     
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    I can't think of anything more soul destroying than physical abuse
     
  17. crazypreacher

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    An armenian whore sleeping in my bed and dating.
     
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    Definitely physical abuse.
     
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    crazypreacher Maker of Lists Gold

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    I can.
     
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    Emotional and physical affairs are equally fucked up if a woman does it.