What would you do?

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  1. gwartney

    gwartney Unafilliated Gold

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    My daughter's dog is real sick. He's about 9 years old. We are pretty sure he's mostly Flat Coated Retriever. He just wandered into her yard half dead one day when he was a pup. I've never seen a dog who tries harder to please his master. Seriously. It's like he knows she saved his life.

    Anyway, she took him to the vet and he has lots of liquid in his lungs. The dr. said 80% chance it's cancer. He could die anytime from the liquid. He's on some meds to reduce the liquid and seems to be responding. He goes back on Thursday and if he still has the liquid, he's a goner. If the liquid is reduced, she may be able to spend $1000. to find out if it is cancer and how bad it is.

    Of course, if he is no better, she'll have to have him put down. My question, if he's a little better, what would you do? Would you spend a grand just to find out what he has and how bad it is? There's only a 20% chance he has something that is treatable.

    My daughter has a good job and could afford the grand. She doesn't want him to suffer and, of course, she doesn't want to just throw her money away. She loves that dog unbelievably. She's totally torn up about it.


    Would you have him put down or would you risk the money and possibly cause him to suffer only to have to put him down anyway?

    The vet said if it was his own dog, he'd probably have him put down. What would you do?
     
  2. Gomez

    Gomez Well-Known Member

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    take him for a ride
     
  3. basketcase

    basketcase Pissed that Naz only has 2 legs

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    Show him which way the rainbow bridge is.
     
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    basketcase Pissed that Naz only has 2 legs

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    Ask Beth. She's a very good animal advocate and wrote a book about how to take care of dogs.
     
  5. Nantrax

    Nantrax Well-Known Member VIP Gold

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    I love animals to no end. It's easy to tell other people what to do but one thousand $$$ just to find out what kind of cancer? Plus that does not help the situation.

    If the vet himself says he would put the dog down, she should listen to the vet.

    Even if it's hard to accept that you will lose your pet, better do it know because the more she waits the harder it will become.

    The dog is 9 years old, it's cancer and there is no guarantee they will find a solution.
     
  6. VAsiCkBoy

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    My dog had a large tumor in her chest. I could have spent like $3,000 to have it removed and maybe she would be halfway normal.
    Sometimes it's better to let go.
     
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    Nantrax Well-Known Member VIP Gold

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    She'll say "Spend all of your life's savings to save him".
     
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    gwartney Unafilliated Gold

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    My family, including me, get way too attached to our dogs. It's going to really tear all of us up when he goes. He lived with us for a couple of years and we've babysat him lots.
     
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    My gut is telling me to take the vet's advice. If he is 80% sure it's cancer, why put him through any more suffering?

    Here are my questions, though... if it IS cancer, can it be treated? And if it's something else can it be treated quickly? And in either case will his quality of life be restored, with minimal trauma and give him a few more good years?

    If money were no object I'd opt to try whatever I could as long as there was a good chance of restored quality of life for at least a couple years. But if the diagnosis is 80% chance of cancer, and IF that cancer would not be treatable/would likely just return, I wouldn't put the dog through it.
     
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    gwartney Unafilliated Gold

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    I know you guys are right. My daughter is afraid she is going to have terrible regrets if she doesn't know for sure he can't be saved.
     
  11. Mark Mayonnaise

    Mark Mayonnaise You look like a tree! VIP

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    That's true, she wrote a book so she is the one to ask
     
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    Mlaw Quite Contrarian Gold

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    My brother just put his dog down this weekend, he probably should have done it awhile ago, but everyone is different. People discouraged me from having Heathcliff's leg amputated, but he had 2 great years and didn't miss a beat.

    If she can afford the treatment no problem, then find out, if it's the worst case scenario, make him as comfortable as possible. His suffering to be avoided, not their's. It so fucking hard.
     
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    gwartney Unafilliated Gold

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    Money is definitely an object. She can probably come up with a grand but anything more is going to be a hardship. I can't really help her either. These are all good questions to ask the doctor. I just keep telling her that she needs to do what is best for him and will cause him the least suffering. He's been too good to her to end his life suffering.
     
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    Mlaw Quite Contrarian Gold

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    ...and had I taken the vets advice 8 years before I would have put Heathclif down, she diagnosed him with terminal and aggressive cancer, over the course of 5 months, it disappeared with no treatment whatoever
     
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    gwartney Unafilliated Gold

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    I won't tell my daughter this. She admitted she is having a hard time not exaggerating the possibilities of the 20%.
     
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    Shivvy 100k Post Club

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    sucked when i had to put my dog down. had him for 15 years :down:
     
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    gwartney Unafilliated Gold

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    Yeah, I had to put my lab down almost 5 years ago and I swore I'd never get another dog because of the heartache. I ended up with my other daughter's dog and this sick one is just like one of my own.
     
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    That's your answer right there. Let's say they find out what kind of cancer the dog has.... and they need to treat the cancer.... another 500$.... can she afford that?

    Howard spending 1000$ is 1$ for us.

    Like I said, I understand... i've been there before but I don't see how this can end well.
     
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    Tough call. But I'd probably choose to make him comfortable and let him go peacefully. :(
     
  20. geo

    geo Well-Known Member

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    awe shit gwart, this is a tought one :console: